HEALING THE FRACTURED SISTERHOOD Q: Ive always felt wary of female friendship. What is it about us, women, that we can be so vile with each other? A: Part of the meanness, judgment, criticism, jealousy and comparison amongst women is caused by generations and generations of women living in isolation. For all of human history until very recently, women have literally lived in community with other women. Wed spend our days together watching the babies, tending to the homes and fields, preparing food together and talking. No matter what you were feeling, even if you wanted to isolate yourself, you would be very seen, felt, celebrated and held by your sisters. When we started living separately in our little nuclear family homes, women were taught to put your best face forward, to look perfectly put together and show the world how perfect things were at home (regardless of how we actually felt). I call this Stepford Wives Syndrome. And so it became a game of who *looked* best, when in reality we all feel our own insecurities and have our own problems. When we come together in the true spirit of sisterhood, supporting one another in the REALITY of the feelings and circumstances of our lives, we can *truly* see one another beyond jealousy, comparison and judgment, and can celebrate and support one another through it all. If you encounter a sister in the world who is trapped in jealousy, comparison and judgment, look upon her with softness and love, knowing that she is still isolated in her own brokenheartedness and hasnt yet tasted the magic of sisterhood.
Posted on: Thu, 10 Apr 2014 20:02:13 +0000
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