HUSBAND SCARCITY (UKO DI) THIS may not be d best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist d push. Husband scarcity has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grand mothers, was there really much of a husband scarcity problem? Or,maybe there were more men than women then,or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I dont think so, I think then,the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can atleast feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and d woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as husband scarcity for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband, you get things like he has to be tall, handsome, fair, rich, owns a house at least, presentable and then she adds God fearing In order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you & the number of men that meet that standard,and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, I cannot suffer in my fathers house and then go and start suffering with a man What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want & there is no suffering,and later in the marriage, the ball turns around, then comes suffering. Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is Good to start small & end big, than start big & end small. The problem is that the description majority of the girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want d same kind of man and d man that fits what they want is just 1man,& the man can only pick 1. then, what becomes of 44 others? They simply start lamenting of husband scarcity.Another irony of our time is that it is hard,due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally, (except those involved in d internet fraud) even d number of those in internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of d ladies of substance, of Good value & virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married & not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made & then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize His purpose for making him, without a help mate & then made the woman & gave to him & he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building d family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty,it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS.....DONT CONFUSE A MANS PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. . Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow . Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating husband scarcity. PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUE.I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way & talks of marriage, because,of a truth, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is most times not seen with the physical eyes,only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal & that which is not seen is more permanent. Relax & go to God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for making-sake, He made her for Adams need to be met. God did not make you for making-sake either (unless He has a special calling on you) He made you to meet a particular mans need. AND THAT MAN MAY BE THAT ONE THAT DOESNT FIT INTO THAT YOUR ALMIGHTY STANDARD .Just Try this, LOOK FOR THE MAN INSIDE THAT MAN, THEN YOU WILL FIND YOUR HUSBAND. Thanks for your time & God Bless you.
Posted on: Sat, 29 Nov 2014 08:21:36 +0000
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