Hello Members. I created this group for the reasons I explained in the About tab. I occasionally contact transgender people on FB whose achievements in some career, arts, science or society interests me. I will ask them to review this group and its about tab and to join it if theyd like. If they dont reply, I leave it alone. When some of you come to Los Angeles and make your arrival a public announcement on Face Book, I may invite you to contact me if youre free to meet in person. I bring my wife Kimiko to these meetings. I am interested to meet you because something about your life, besides being transgender, interests me to know you better. I am not seeking a date. I do not intend to argue with you to undermine your dignity or goals in life. I am most definitely not an ex-gay ministry Christian. I was accused today by the FB friend of a prestigious feminist lady of being a concern troll for asking a simple question. I replied that I was asking something about a certain industry that was worthy of discussion. I now realize that I was wrong to inject (impose) my white male opinion into a heated discussion among transgender feminists who held a different view point on business realities than I do. It was the prestigious feminists personal Face Book thread and clearly not a place inviting discussion. When I tried to discuss her issue, I got an earful, perhaps deserved. I see now that she and her feminists FB friends saw me as an egotist male for trying to invite [lead] a discussion that the feminist ladies of that thread, as social change leaders, had dibs on and wanted none of my opinion. I am now being vilified as a defender of the white male status quo, a troll and a stalker of transgender women. I am not any of those three, and while it hurts to be defamed like that, I trust you will make your own judgement of me. One problem I have with this prestigious feminist lady is that she deleted my comments, then defamed me for what she claims I said, thus denying anyone the ability to read my own words and decide for themselves. She has the right to delete my comments, but not to then defame me for deleted posts I carefully wrote with no intention, nor I think words, to deserve her defamation of me, one that remains on Face Book, making her both the judge and jury. My being outgoing, intellectually engaged in ideas, spiritually and ethically committed to inclusion and equality can get me in trouble when I express my thinking about the business world or society. I believe that a process of incremental change is needed to reach a tipping point where the status quo is suddenly redefined. My business insights and suggestions are not well received by those that want current realities of the business world changed, and are angry over their lack of power to make that happen all at once. I want changes that they want too, but my approach and patience can trigger their emotions and lead them to see something nefarious in my motives. Life sometimes gets messy that way. There are times when my intentions need to be clarified, words rephrased and relationships mended. I have no right to expect special consideration, but when treated with grace by others who have no duty to hear me out or to include me in a dialogue, I am humbled and grateful. Sometimes I need to reconsider my beliefs, change them and move forward. Thats called personal growth, and I know Ill always need more of that. I understand that issues which may be topics of posts are not just intellectual or business arguments, but engage emotions reflecting lifes frustrations and pains. Emotions are often triggered by a certain word, tone or by a speaker [writer] having a profile that the other dislikes. In todays unpleasantry, I should have known to stay silent. I believe that others jumped to attack me as a stereotype or character of men who hurt, anger or disgust them in society. I am neither a stereotype nor a caricature. So... if you question my motives beyond what I wrote in the About tab for this group, please just ask me. Please do not guess or assume, and then spread rumors that are defamatory, playing the childish game of I heard you did / disrespected / said / etc., but... you heard that from someone else who says they heard from someone else who in turn injected intentions they assumed which were not apparent in fact, etc. Sometimes when there is an original seed to start a rumor, it is something in a different context that later is twisted to suit a critics prejudices or agenda. So members of this group... when we dont understand or agree with someones post, please engage in a dialogue politely with rational arguments or sincere questions that seek offer honest answers. Please encourage others to gain insight to and respect for your thinking. Please, behave with grace and not personal attacks. Personal, defamatory attacks raise defenses. They cause fight or flight reaction. No exchange of ideas can then occur. I was told today to read this link. I did so, and will keep it in mind. geekfeminism.wikia/wiki/Concern_troll
Posted on: Thu, 15 Jan 2015 00:16:31 +0000
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