Here is what I said at Queenies service on Sunday. Thank you to everyone for sharing Queenie stories, thoughts and prayers. A Eulogy for Queenie My deepest condolences to everyone for the irreplaceable loss of Queenie. To her family, thank you for welcoming me into your hearts as Queenie’s significant other. My time with you has given me joy as well as respect for a group of people whose lives are well lived with emphasis on family unity and strength. You raised a beautiful daughter who changed my life with her incredible love. I recognize that she was a vital member, so listen to your hearts, and ask: “What would Queenie do?” She will show you the way to happier days as her spirit lives on in our own lives. I encourage everyone here to do the same. Queenie and I started dating after we re-met at our ten year high school reunion at the Lightning Tavern on Union Street in the city. She wasn’t planning on going originally and I had to talk my friend Justin into going with me. Somehow, Queenie and I both ended up there just talking and laughing. She reached out and touched my hand and it went straight into my heart. I remember that moment so clearly, a small gesture that altered the course of my entire existence. The next day I called her up and we went for a walk in the hills and had lunch on College Avenue. More dates quickly followed. From there, we fell in love over a distance of half of the country. We talked about growing strong like tall trees whose branches would one day touch. She said I was going to be her big adventure. We complimented each other: we came from different backgrounds, thought differently and loved differently, but shared the respect and genuine appreciation for each other. I wouldn’t have had it any other way. Fortunately, we never were apart for more than a couple of months. Most recently we “met in the middle” for a Denver 4th of July. Queenie was as alive as ever that last time I talked with her and watched her get on her plane home. Her last words to me by text were: “love you,” the same as every night because she made we point of saying it. Now, I think about her life with me and how it was supposed to be. We were going to live together, anywhere, it didn’t matter as long as there was a technology sector and a postdoc position for me. Eventually, we would have been in the Bay Area. Queenie said she wanted to have “a place to drop off a kid” as a euphemism for “closer to my family.” I wanted to be closer to her family and mine, so this is what we were going to do. We were going to have a Boston Terrier named Sir Walter Digglesbury and give him walks, baths, food and love. She wanted to live in a moderately sized house, as long as it had wrap around porch so we could sit and rock in our chairs on summer evenings. Our children would have the best of both of our worlds and be bright and inquisitive. I would kiss her goodnight and wake up next to her every day. Everything would start in about a year when we both finished graduate school. We were planning to take a long trip to see some beautiful blue waters and romantic sites. We all know she had an overt inclination to control her own future, and her plans were my plans. We were partners with a plan for life. Queenie, you are the light and love of my life, my destination, the fruit of my labor, my rock, my companion through good times and bad. Your presence was felt every day of our relationship through the many media at your disposal: text, phone, email, facebook, United States Postal Service, UPS, FedEx, Amazon, Sherries Berries, Georgetown Cupcakes, FTD, Gchat, hangouts it goes on. You even sent me prerecorded voice messages I could play at any time I missed you. The innumerable number of pictures you took and shared with me has given me long lasting memories of you and our love. Thank you for being the most loving partner in life I have ever known. A favorite quote of Queenie’s that she saw every day: What you are in love with, what seizes your imagination, will affect everything. It will decide what gets you out of bed in the mornings, what you do with your evenings, how you spend your weekends, what you read, who you know, what breaks your heart, and what amazes you. Fall in love, stay in love, and it will decide everything.
Posted on: Tue, 12 Aug 2014 23:14:59 +0000
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