Hey Guys- I have a friend who once gave me some sage advice. He said that he finally got to a point in his life where he doesnt do anything that involves the cringe factor. He said that he will not go forward in any deal or work with any person having a cringe factor. I did not know what that meant, so I asked him. That is the big gulp you would have to take to go forward, he explained. My rule is this: anytime I have to cringe or take a big gulp to agree to do anything substantial with anyone, whether to hire him, work with him, or anything significant, I dont do it. I wont go forward as long as the cringe factor is there. Period. Instantaneously I remembered times I had ignored the cringe factor. There were so many situations that I could recall where I had gone forward ignoring problem areas about a person or deal, but took the big gulp only to have the big throw-up later. I had to learn that lesson the hard way, as most optimists do. We can get ourselves into messes that could have been avoided if we had paid attention to the writing on the wall and not taken the step where there was a cringe. This is like the immune system for the character. It is about boundaries. It is like your skin. Your entire being is designed not to allow toxins into your system, body or otherwise. Your skin keeps bad things out, unless a cut allows infection in. Your immune system keeps germs out by immediately dealing with them and saying, in effect, no deal. The germ is not allowed to become part of the body, but is destroyed and eliminated. And your character has to have the same functions as well, serving as the immune system for the things you agree to do or not do. Cheers, Henry *Pages 196-197 from my book Integrity
Posted on: Wed, 16 Apr 2014 16:51:42 +0000
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