Hi all its 18yrs this year since I lost my mum the grief I suffered and the loss I felt was unbearable at the time but as they say time is a great healer I still miss and can picture her like I only saw her yesterday. Her death to me was such a shock and the trauma I went through is hard to explain she was not only my mum but a grandmother and also a baby sitter to my daughter , I worked full time any hours from 830 am untill 10pm , these hrs I was always able to fill due to mum being always there , imagine how I felt shock of her sudden death and then panic of how will I keep my job , at the time ronnie was working away in Hong Kong so I felt so alone and desolate and full of fear because the company I worked for at that time wanted you to give 110 percent at all times which freaked me out cos at that time I needed that job and they were bearing down hard on me to see me out and bring new blood in younger blood who they could bully they were callous bastards no matter what trials and tribulations you had in your life they had to be ignored and the job came first , when my mum passed away on the Saturday 6th on the Monday of the 8th my daughter was due into hospital for surgery on her feet , I really was at my wits end I had a husband and 2 brothers working in Hong Kong and a sister I didnt get on with, yes I had friends but all who had to work like me , they offered me help and support whenever they could but couldnt help me with this , it was my sister in law Annie who said to me eve our mam will help , well Annies mum came and see me no beating about the bush she said ring the hospital and see what they say , this I did under her guidance the hospital told me under the circumstances it would be better for keleigh to have her surgery and be in hospital under their care so I could get on and arrange mums funeral with my brothers , granny Kay picked us up at 7.30 that Monday morning took us to the hospital and waited with us , during the 5 days keleigh was hospitalised she did everything possible to make life easier for me she was a godsend who gave me strength to carry on nothing would stop Kay from finding or working out a solution to a problem she always came up with an answer and a bloody good one at that , when I returned back to work it was only through Kay she agreed to look after keleigh full time she had her early morning or late night whatever shift I was on I could always rely on Kay and keleigh was always tucked up in bed at our home when I returned she would send the elder grandchild up to sit with her untill I got home , she treated her like she was her own scolded her when wrong but praised her when well she took her into the heart of her family , to me I could never repay the kindness of which granny Kay and her husband Gerry showed to us , they took her on holiday they toughened her up but at the same time they gave her the love that grandparents give to their own , both being Irish and born in Dublin Gerry under no circumstances would be called paddy , however where rip was concerned she was the only one I think in living history was allowed to call him paddy in the pub , this came from when she was only about 2 and used to go to the lakes with her grandad Derek , come Saturday dinner time she used to give her grandad his coat and say come on gag we got to see paddy in the pub.it is with sad regret that gerry passed away 7 months ago . Today I travelled to worcester to Kays funeral, after losing her beloved Gerry the light of her life for fifty years she couldnt live without him she lost the will to live , after listening to the sermon today it said how family orientated they were children grandchildren and great grandchildren they cherished , this I agree but they also showed love and kindness to people who were not blood and kin , I will always remember the love and kindness you both showed to us during our troubled times , I hope you have both joined hands again and can journey through pastures new and share your generosity kindness and love to all others like you did to us , happy travels and may a light shine over us from you xx
Posted on: Wed, 21 Jan 2015 21:42:56 +0000
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