Hi zane, how are you? please keep me anonymous. I need some advise, tips or tricks from you or from others on your page. I am 24 year old Female from Canada (i come from an Indian background). Last year (june 2013) I went to Dominican Republic on vacation with my friends and i met a gentleman there (he lives in Dominican) . Lets call him J***. His a sweet guy, 25 years old, his in university (accounting/finance) and working currently (employed). During my vacation, i spend time with him. his friends and him would come hang out with my friends and I and we had a great time. His friends and him were super cool and decent. they did not try to pull any negative move on us or tried to take things on a different level. before heading back to canada, we exchanged numbers, Facebook, instagram, etc. Since then we were talking/skyping everyday, all day till we fell asleep. I did not mention earlier, he did not speak english, but it did not bother me since i know Spanish. Around September he told me he enjoyed talking to me and how he likes me, (so did I, but i not mention anything because i wanted to get to know him more). He mentioned about me to his mother and all his other family members. His mom added me on facebook and we started talking from that day on. his mom and I created a none mother/daughter bond. Let me get to the point instead of dragging the story long. On new years 2014, i told J*** that i really liked him and i enjoyed talking him (by the way, just for me he started going to english class and he speaks little bit of english now), and i told him i am coming down to see him in Abril for 3 weeks. when time came, i went to see him, he came to pick me up brought me to his home town, took me to his house and i met his wonderful family that welcomed me with their open arms. His family and J*** took care of me well, fed me, took me to different cities, showed me off to everyone that i was J*** girlfriend. It was the best vacation i ever had. i didnt want to return back home. i cried so much..by the way J*** and I MADE IT OFFICAL when i was there. I couldnt have asked for a better man. where i need advise is, i did not tell my parents about him (You know how brown/Indian parents are) since i got back from Dominican, i have been depressed and been having anxiety attacks. I miss him so much and we always talk and he is really worried about me. I hate being here and i just want to go back and be with him, but were both being patient because we want to finish school, but He told me if i really cant take it to pack my bags and to come back and that he will take care of me, and his mom said the same. i did go see a doctor and they told me i have to go see a psychologist for tips and tricks on how to control my anxiety (i get pressure in my chest, heart beating fast, trouble breathing, always crying..over think about things. etc) (i have almost a month and half wait for an appoinment to see a physc)...my doctor said i might feel better if i do go back and spend time in dominican till i get home sick, but i cant run away from reality. my question is does anyone on your page can help me with tips and tricks with anxiety? and do you know how i can approach my parents about J****?..i am thinking to go back if my anxiety doesnt get better, because the doctor said the fact my boyfriend is not here its affecting me. how can i approach about this to my parents? MY RESPONSE: This is a tough situation for numerous reasons but I am glad that you are getting some help. While I understand that you have fallen head over heels for the young man and his family, they do live in an entirely different country, both of you are in school, and while you can go visit there, moving there would be an entirely different obstacle to overcome. I feel like it is a romantic story mixed with turmoil because of the distance. I am concerned that you have that type of separation anxiety because you need to be comfortable in your daily life. I am curious to see what others have to say as well. I will pray for you.
Posted on: Sun, 13 Jul 2014 00:05:00 +0000
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