Home The families are destroyed ! Restoration or the destroyed families “And the LORD God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18 “…And he answered and said unto them, have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:4-6 “The LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.” Malachi 2:14-16 “Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only thine own and not strangers’ with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.” Proverbs 5:15-19 “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life…Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all….Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.” Proverbs 31:10-31 In his fierce struggle against Christ and His people Satan strives to destroy peace and faithfulness from families, and he has succeeded in planting his banner in many families. And those who are not sufficiently guarded will fall a prey to his temptations. That’s why it the aim of third angel’s message to establish family sanctification. “Blessed is every one that feareth the LORD; that walketh in his ways. For thou shalt eat the labour of thine hands: happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee. Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table. Behold, that thus shall the man be blessed that feareth the LORD.” Psalms 128:1-4 “Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!” Psalms 133:12 “And their seed shall be known among the Gentiles, and their offspring among the people: all that see them shall acknowledge them, that they are the seed which the LORD hath blessed.” Isaiah 61:9 “Behold, I and the children whom the LORD hath given me are for signs and for wonders in Israel from the LORD of hosts, which dwelleth in mount Zion.” Isaiah 8:18 “Our sphere of influence may seem narrow, our ability small, our opportunities few, our acquirements limited; yet wonderful possibilities are ours through a faithful use of the opportunities of our own homes. If we will open our hearts and homes to the divine principles of life we shall become channels for currents of life-giving power. From our homes will flow streams of healing, bringing life and beauty and fruitfulness where now are barrenness and dearth.” MH. 355. “Though difficulties, perplexities, and discouragements may arise, let neither husband nor wife harbor the thought that their union is a mistake or a disappointment. Determine to be all that it is possible to be to each other. Continue the early attentions. In every way encourage each other in fighting the battles of life. Study to advance the happiness of each other. Let there be mutual love, mutual forbearance. Then marriage, instead of being the end of love, will be as it were the very beginning of love. The warmth of true friendship, the love that binds heart to heart, is a foretaste of the joys of heaven.” MH p. 360-361 “Around every family there is a sacred circle that should be kept unbroken. Within this circle no other person has a right to come. Let not the husband or the wife permit another to share the confidences that belong solely to themselves.” MH 361. a. The signs of a destroyed family Discord and strife between the married pair; failure of keeping secret of each other; exchange of bitter words; violation of the marriage vow; lack of discipline among the children; hiding of money from each other ; lack of commitment to family responsibilities; lack of respect toward each other ; engaging in trail of the married couple; financial separation and in-laws conflicting. b. A virtuous wife “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” Ephesians 5:22-24 “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.” Proverbs 21:4. “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” Proverbs 14:1. The wife should be courteous that she may be a comfort to all who come to her home. She must also be punctilious that she may not be a burden to her husband; she must be generous in order to be loved by the members of her family, the family of her husband and the neighbors at large. She must be diligent in accomplishing her daily duties. She must be truthful that she may win the confidence of her husband, for the fault of being doubtable has no ransom, and to live with liar makes you to doubt even her or his truth. The wife is the key of diplomacy in the neighborhood, in the family of her husband, in the church and abroad. In order to be qualified for this grand and important work she must maintain the fear of God and obedience to her husband and cultivate humility and kindness. She must also delight in accomplishing her primary responsibilities: preparing food, washing clothes, cleaning the dishes, hygiene and health of the members of the family and the keeping of regular time for family meal. The Christian mother delights to do good to her family, she joyfully obey her husband and stands as a counselor and a treasurer of the family. She entertains the visitors and show kindness to the poor. Such a mother crowns her husband and her family with a good name from visitors and neighbors. She rears her children with much counsels and teachings. She is not swayed by fashions to ask her husband to do for her the things that are beyond his ability. Such a mother maintains discipline and shuns faultfinding. She corrects her husband without violating his reputation. C. A husband who deserves the name “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.” (Ephesians 5:28) “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with [them] according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” (1 peter 3:7) The husband who deserves the name is he who is wise to shun evil and who is ever mindful to the welfare of his family; for a wife is but a helper in the successful plans made by her husband. Such a husband maintains self-discipline so that he might be respected and esteemed. He must beware not to rule his family with an iron rod and he must preserve order in family, he needs to be wise in regard to family economy and to avoid prodigality and pride. And he should be kind and helpful to the needy. A sincere Christian husband knows to bring an atmosphere of joy into his family, and to supply both Spiritual and physical wants of the members of his family. He maintains affability in his family; he is not selfish to his family. Such a husband is a source of joy in his family, a priest to his family members and a genuine friend to his children. He is faithful to his wife. Would this world have such husbands, wives and children who are converted by the gospel of truth, love, safety and peace would flow as a saving stream to the world. Such a condition in society can bring rest to the rulers and security keepers of this world. Wealth spent in cases of corruption and bribe which causes economical declension and betrayal, would have done much good. The only successful remedy for the prevailing corruption is to accept the gospel of truth, which brings satisfaction and generous spirit toward all. D. Child guidance “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6) “Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old. Buy the truth, and sell it not; also wisdom, and instruction, and understanding. The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him. Thy father and thy mother shall be glad, and she that bares thee shall rejoice.” (Proverbs 23:22-25) “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; that it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:1- 4) “….and was subject unto them: but his mother kept all these sayings in her heart. And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man.” (Luke 2:51-52) “The home is the child’s first school, and it is here that the foundation should be laid for a life of service. Its principles are to be taught not merely in theory. They are to shape the whole life training. Very early the lesson of helpfulness should be taught the child. As soon as strength and reasoning power are sufficiently developed, he should be given duties to perform in the home. He should be encouraged in trying to help father and mother, encouraged to deny and to control himself, to put other’s happiness and convenience before his own, to watch for opportunities to cheer and assist brothers and sisters and playmates, and to show kindness to the aged, the sick, and the unfortunate. The more fully the spirit of true ministry pervades the home, the more fully it will be developed in the lives of the children. They will learn to find joy in service and sacrifice for the good of others.” (MH p 401-402) E. The Youth “The choice of a life companion should be such as best to secure physical, mental, and spiritual well-being for parents and for their children–such as will enable both parents and children to bless their fellow men and to honor their Creator. Before assuming the responsibilities involved in marriage, young men and young women should have such an experience in practical life as will prepare them for its duties and its burdens …. It is only in Christ that a marriage alliance can be safely formed. Human love should draw its closest bonds from divine love. Only where Christ reigns can there be deep, true, unselfish affection ….. Let a young woman accept as a life companion only one who possesses pure, manly traits of character, one who is diligent, aspiring, and honest, and one who loves and fears God. Let a young man seek one to stand by his side who is fitted to bear her share of life’s burdens, one whose influence will ennoble and refine him, and who will make him happy in her love …. Then marriage, instead of being the end of love, will be as it were the very beginning of love. The warmth of true friendship, the love that binds heart to heart, is a foretaste of the joys of heaven.” (MH 358- 359) The joy of seeing our families in Heaven “We see a retinue of angels on either side of the gate, and as we pass in Jesus speaks, “Come, ye blessed of My Father, inherit the kingdom that is prepared for you from the foundation of the world.” Here He tells you to be a partaker of His joy, and what is that? It is the joy of seeing of the travail of your soul, fathers. It is the joy of seeing that your efforts, mothers, are rewarded. Here are your children; the crown of life is upon their heads.” (CG 567, LDE 292) “As the little infants come forth immortal from their dusty beds, they immediately wing their way to their mother’s arms. They meet again nevermore to part. But many of the little ones have no mother there. We listen in vain for the rapturous song of triumph from the mother. The angels receive the motherless infants and conduct them to the tree of life.” (2SM 260, LDE 293) The Mother’s Reward “When the judgment shall sit, and the books shall be opened; when the “well done” of the great Judge is pronounced, and the crown of immortal glory is placed upon the brow of the victor, many will raise their crowns in sight of the assembled universe and, pointing to their mother, say, “She made me all I am through the grace of God. Her instructions, her prayers, have been blessed to my eternal salvation.” (MYP. p 330) “The angels of God immortalize the names of the mothers whose efforts have won their children to Jesus Christ.” (CG 568, LDE 294)
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