How Can We Motivate A Children? We want so much for our children to grow up to be people who are engaged in life, people with goals and the motivation to do and be. And it bugs us that they spend hours playing video games, snap-chatting, taking selfies and watching TV shows. Think about it—how often do you find yourself criticizing them for the way they spend their time? How often do you try to steer them in a different direction by suggesting more meaningful activities? But does it really work? What can we do differently that can help inspire our kids and increase their motivation? First we need to remember, like all human beings, our kids have a natural endless desire. We can see it clearly in babies and young children, but unfortunately as they grow it seems that their desire shrinks. One of the reasons for that is fear: fear of making a mistake, not living up to other’s expectations, and being criticized. It’s not easy to hear, but we parents play a big part in instilling this fear in our children. If we can stay away from telling our kids what to do, and instead allow them the space to figure it on their own, they will discover what excites them or what they are passionate about. The key is to leave behind our own agenda and fears, and lead them to think on their own. Rather than expressing what we think about what they do, or what we would like them to do, we can ask our kids what they feel, what they like, and what they are excited about. This might help them reconnect to themselves and their desire, so they will be more inclined to dare and go out of their comfort zone. Our kids possess a spark of Light inside of them; our job is to help them connect to it. When they do, they will strive to be the best they can be. External pressure, putting them down, creating fears, and looking for results are all things that cover that Light. Another idea sounds really simple but it can go long way: to share with our kids what we do in our lives. They see us talking on the phone, answering emails or going on business trips, but they are not necessarily aware of why we do these things, or what is required to make something happen. Kids know it’s possible to “make money on the computer” but they have no clue what that means or entails. Taking the time to share a few of the exciting activities we’re involved with or things that transpired during the day will give them a peek into our world. We are all going to try and limit the time our kids spend on electronic devices, and redirect them to more fruitful activities, and that’s fine. As long as we keep the right consciousness of trusting the Light, and the spark of Light in our kids, we can help them to feel trustworthy and capable of making good decisions. Our job as parents is like holding a match to a candle until the candle’s flame burns on its on. Let’s remember: We can’t instill desire in our kids, we can only help awaken it The more space we give our kids to be, the more likely they will get to know themselves The more they connect to themselves, the closer they will get to their life purpose
Posted on: Fri, 12 Sep 2014 07:46:59 +0000
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