How to Overcome Passivity Do you often find yourself wanting to do something, but never having the courage to just do it? Are you tired of feeling too weak to do even the most basic things? Does it seem that something always stops you from doing what you want, or youre always waiting for someone or something to give you a push before you act? Being too passive might be preventing you from taking life in the direction youd like to see it go. Here are some ways to overcome passivity and make your own way in the world. Understand why you tend to act passive. Passivity has various causes: lack of willpower, lack of hope, lack of encouragement from other people, negativity, laziness, lack of necessary means. Think about the way you tend to act when youre about to do something. If theres something that stops you from performing that action, think about the first thought that comes to your mind. Notice the subtle differences between these causes. Beware; sometimes these causes are combined. The more situations you find yourself in, the harder it is for you to do something. Gain willpower. Willpower is that ability to control your thoughts and actions in order to achieve what you want to do; in other words, the ability to go for your dreams and do what you really want to. You can gain it by following your impulses and being spontaneous. Willpower is an ability you gain only by practicing; the more you practice it, the more you enjoy it and find reasons to practice it further. Choose Now or Never as your motto from now on. Convince yourself to do something right when it occurs to you, and imagine that otherwise something bad will happen. Its very effective in gaining more courage to do things. Start by achieving short term goals, like convincing yourself to do the laundry today and not waiting until tomorrow or studying for 15 minutes for an important test. After youll be able to accomplish these little things, you can move on to something bigger, like moving to a place youve always dreamed to live in, or saving for that down payment that will help you get the car you want, or whatever big dreams you may have. Get motivated. You have willpower; you have hope- now all you need is a reason to do something. Think about your greatest wishes and picture having them fulfilled. Set some goals you want to achieve, and focus on achieving them. Constantly aiming somewhere sustains your motivation. Be more positive. Stop worrying so much about everything and thinking that things wont end up well. Unless the whole Universe is conspiring against you (and it isnt), positive actions will more often than not have positive results, too. You may not be the luckiest person around, but there are ways to improve your luck Stop living your life according to Murphys Law. Understand the power of the self-fulfilling prophecy. Whether weve resigned ourselves to a bleak future or nurtured a seminal, life-changing belief in our power to fashion a positive future, the odds are overwhelmingly in our favor--meaning we reap what we sow, we can control our futures. The saying be careful what you wish for (or, be careful what you assume) comes in handy here. The human mind wields extraordinary power. The simple fact is that we become what we anticipate. Other than luck and haphazard circumstance, our ability to envision ourselves making good choices, teamed with a willingness to pretend were committed to reaching useful goals, until the pretense becomes familiar enough to evolve into enthusiastic habit, is a pretty solid recipe for becoming that person weve spent such time and effort convincing ourselves was not a possibility. Luck is nothing to count on or factor into any mix. What IS important? Realizing that people, who are better at organizing their lives, are better at influencing their fates. Understand what you need in order to do something, and try to acquire it. Dont shoot for the stars; for example, dont dream about being the best basketball player ever if youre short or making more money than Bill Gates if youre dirt poor. Be realistic in your expectations. If you dont have the means to do something, but theyre still achievable, dont hesitate and start working to acquire them. Get off your butt. Thats pretty obvious; being a couch potato wont get you anywhere. Any action requires a minimum effort; even for walking you need tomove your legs- nothing can be done without effort. Of course, its easier to accept everything right as it comes rather than make an effort to influence it. But persisting in this mentality can lead your life in the wrong direction. Dont be surprised if after 10 years youll end up broke, buried in debts, single/divorced, and having to sell your precious TV to pay the bills- all this because you didnt move a finger to improve your life! Dont leave your whole life in fates hands; realize that all the people that are renowned for something they had done in their lives didnt have it all from the very beginning- any brilliant politician, for example, had to climb up to the top; they werent born already elected, you know. Be confident. You need to believe in yourself in order to achieve what you want. Dont judge yourself too harshly; every human being is good at something. Make a list of all your past achievements. They dont have to be impressive CVs; even a small activity like washing the dishes counts Get to know the positive side of change. Change makes our life less boring, allows us to experience new things, makes us understand different lifestyles and different points of view, gets us out of trouble and refreshes us, making us lively and energetic. Once you get to enjoy one major change in your life, you will be tempted to make other changes. Become more disciplined. If youre disciplined, you have a lower chance of failing to do what you want/have to. If you cant convince yourself to do something, it would be useful for you to be forced to do it by external circumstances. Sign up for something. Anything. Knowing that you just have to be somewhere at some hour forces you to become more disciplined in your schedule. Passive people often dont do things right at the time they should be doing them; they usually put them off. Never think you cant do something. Be strong, bold,assertive and persistent in your tries. Make your life less boring. If you have no life, its understandable why you act passive; anyone who is so bored with their own life lacks enthusiasm and livelihood. Try spicing up your life a little; get a new social life, go out more often, try a new hobby. ...wiki Hows!!!!
Posted on: Fri, 31 Jan 2014 15:33:28 +0000
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