I JUST LEARNT THAT: A good number of Nigerian men don’t value relationships. To our men, it’s all about how much you have in your pocket. But I don’t really blame you because my fellow ladies have made you believe there is no relationship without a fat bank account. Men now believe a girl can be treated anyhow and be pacified later by a fat cheque,exotic ride, holiday to the Caribbean. Maybe it has been working for you simply because you have always met the greedy ones. But a time will come when you will fall head-over-heels in love with a girl only to have her walk out of your life. Then you will come to agree with me that there are dos and don’ts in every relationship. So many relationships in Nigeria are in trouble because our dear men have refused to see women as partners. To them, she is just another piece of furniture and should be treated as one. Men still believe a woman should be seen and not heard. I still wonder when I see men beat their wives and girlfriends. This has led to the break up of so many relationships, as the lady would rather live outside the relationship than die in the relationship. I so much agree in a man being the head of every relationship. I still believe in the African culture. But guys, I still see so many African men who treat their wives like partners and not slaves. Treating a woman well has nothing to do with wealth. Yes, a woman deserves some level of comfort but that shouldn’t take the place of companionship. Be it for a date or marriage, every decent girl wants a man who will always respect and treat her like a lady. To help you succeed in your relationship with the woman of your dream, try these few tips: APPRECIATE HER: It takes just a little effort to win a woman’s heart. A woman wants to be appreciated always. No matter how much you spend on your woman, she will never be satisfied until you give her that which her heart longs for. Look at her every morning before you step out of the house and tell her how beautiful she is. Even if you think she is not, I know there is one particular attribute she has that won your heart. Yours may be a long distance relationship, thank God for GSM. She wants to hear your voice last thing at night, she wants you to talkher to sleep and wake her up the next morning to sweet words. This is the easiest way to win a woman’s heart and have her gothe extra mile for you. Don’t let familiarity quench the fire and don’t be deceived into believing she doesn’t care. SPEND TIME WITH HER: Give her time. I understand things are gettingtougher. Men go through a lot of pressure to make ends meet. Traffic situation in Lagos is getting worse by the day but guys, all these are not good enough reason for your failure to spend time with the woman you love. She needs your time not just the goodies. GIVE: Be generous with the woman you claim to love. Most guys believe in just words. Guys, love gives. For you to be a good lover, you must be able to give according to your capability. Make that woman the envy of her friends. I am not saying you should go beyond your capability just to make her happy. She is your woman and knows your worth. Love gives. REMEMBER: Don’t forget her birthday, marriage anniversary and other important dates. Close early from work on that day and take her to aplace she has never been before. Make it a memorable one, after all, she remembers yours. You can get friends for a surprising party for her. Boy, stop coming up with the excuse of leaving town on an official assignment during Valentine season. Some guys make sure the official assignment starts a week before Valentine simply because they want tocheat on their wives and girlfriends. If you don’t like her look, get her to change it. This has led a lot of women into unfaithfulness. RESPECT HER: Make her feel on top among friends. We know you are the man but please don’t put it on her face. Don’t shout at her in public, that hurts a woman deeply. Guys, it is wrong discussing your woman with friends and relations. If you must, sing her praise. It is wrong gathering in that beer parlour to talk about her .ACCEPT HER: I have seen a lot of men dating a girl without wanting to have anything to do with her job, friends and family. Guys, you must make that girl you claim to love dearly feel accepted. Youmust be ready to discuss her job, accept her friends and if there are ones you don’t like, gradually make her see reason. But her family,you must accept. Why would any responsible man or woman stop the partner’s family from visiting? Don’t try to make her change her job against her wish. I have seen men try to force a lady out of her job due to selfish reasons. Ninety-nine percent of the motive behind it is complex and insecurity. You may try to make her feel the job is too stressful for her but boy, we know why you did that. In as much as you have to protect your own (girlfriend or wife), you don’t have to let your emotions rule all the time............to be continued
Posted on: Mon, 17 Jun 2013 17:08:03 +0000
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