I am trying to figure out a way to help this person, NAMI site, not trying to post negative stuff, just interesting to me, and perhaps others, but, I try to help people on these sites. you can read it you want. Do you know how much I hate posting here? [Reply] I am not sure that this is the place for me to post and if not, others perhaps can suggest a more appropriate discussion group; anyhow, my story is this: my x husband, with whom I did have a good relationship, who was a Vietnam veteran, committed suicide two years ago this July. I had seen him days before, he was seemingly fine, he drove my son to the airport, seemingly fine...all was well, or so we thought, to make a long story short, my daughter with whom he was, or she was, co-dependent, who was doing fine at work but needed his economic support, abused that a bit...normal sort of...but deeply close to her Dad, she went to his house and found him hanging...her life has been downhill ever since. She blames herself, she isnt working and is on SS disability now, her friends have abandoned her. If I visit with her, or she with me, she can maintain a level of being social and appropriate and intelligent, but lacks the emotional stability to return to work. In the meanwhile, her finances are dwindling, she has lost her benefits for therapy, shes still on medication and unable to return to the world. I cans support her economically. She could end up homeless because the SS payments are minimal. No matter what I say to her that is logical and rational about her Dads actions, she insists she caused it and could have prevented it. It is a disaster unfolding and there doesnt seem to be anything I can do and sometimes I think the more advice I give, the more she digs in...resisting advice to be engaged in the community, take walks, go to church...she remains a shut in licking her wounds. Ok, thats about it, or at least the thumb sketch of what has happened. Insights are welcome, I am powerless and sad in this tragedy. My daughter has sentenced herself to a living death, it seems to me. Her punishment.
Posted on: Fri, 21 Nov 2014 03:27:18 +0000
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