I find this situation so frustrating with my Grandmother..so if anyone has any advice...please give it. She is 97 and put into a rehab facility by state social workers-none of the family knowing anything..they used a little trickery to get her to the car, told her they were taking her to a DR, took her to Fazolis where she had cheesecake. Took her to the Facility...the Drs deem her mentally incompetent and she is now a ward of the state. The state calls me after the fact to tell me where she is...they want me to become her Guardian and Conservator....ok I say because my hubby and I have been trying to help her with her food, meds, and housekeeping....They rush me through this process. I go to a hearing where I am then disowned by my father and uncle..the judge declares me the guardian and in charge of her finances. My hubby and I are buying her clothes and food, and things to work on the house and trying to meet all the needs while waiting for this paper to be signed. Still no paper and on Thursday I get a call from the Rehab facility saying that in 2 days her insurance runs out and she will become private pay and I need to apply for medicaid......2 days???? Really???? I tell them...I have no idea how much money she has, I have been needing to pay her bills for 2 months...I have called all the utility comp, ins, etc to ask them to hold off on cutting these things off because I have no access to her money..I also have no access to her medical care..I have been told that I can know nothing about her care because I am not her guardian...the state is...SO how is it that I need to be responsible for her care this day when you havent allowed me to know anything thus far......She proceeds to tell me that once I have the papers filled out that all her money will become the states....I asked about the bills needing to be paid...she says not their problem. I said what about her house? She says she may be able to keep it...I asked her how without her money to pay her bills...not their problem...What about the items the court said they would reimburse us for....not now because she would have any money, it would belong to the state...although they will give her 50.00 each month out of her money. She proceeds to tell me how much it costs to be in the facility.....wow-lots more than Grandma has coming in. So I asked her....so when she leaves this world and this house is standing...what?-then it is sold and the government has a hold on her assets to make up the difference?...she says well maybe that could happen??????????? She wants nothing more than to give her house-the house she and her husband built---to her 2 sons. This is all Chuck and I have tried to do...take care of her, her property, and my dad and uncle until she leaves us.....Now she is trapped. Why in world would they want me to become her conservator and then tell me she has no assets? It cost 110.00 to apply for these things that have no meaning...and my grandmother can not have her last wishes...I find this whole process demeaning to the wonderful woman that she is and I am at a total loss. The pressure being put on me about this situation is nuts to say the least. I know the only person on this earth that can help me is someone not involved with the government.....I suppose that would be an attorney, but we know that she can not afford one since they are going to take her money.....just insanity, and I am at a loss of how to handle this mess. Of course I know that God will help me in finding the answers.......
Posted on: Tue, 26 Nov 2013 03:19:10 +0000
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