I know my husband, Randy Dolphin like a book! I loved him with all of my heart and he loved me with all of his. He told me so! So, While driving to the post office, I got a phone call from the Oakland Regional Veteran Office. They were trying to reach Randy, and couldnt. I havent heard from him, and I know he would have called me long ago, if he was able. I asked him to check and see if my husband was deceased, and that I had an intuitive feeling that he was. He came back on the line and told me that my husband, Randy Brad Dolphin, had died on October 5, 2014. I broke out crying and had to pull to the side of the road! Dead since October 5, and nobody in his family told me, his Sister, his Daughters, nobody! They did not call me and tell me he was near death, or include me in any of his care. He had given power of attorney to his oldest Daughter, and now I understand why. Randy was the finest man I have ever known! I loved him with all of my heart, and I grieve now. That is why I have changed my fotos, to honor my husband, again. When he told me he wanted to go to Idaho, I believe he knew that he was going to die! I asked him why he was so adamant, and he said he had a feeling something catastrophic was going to happen! I asked him if he had those feelings before, and he said, Yes! We had spoken before about end of life stuff, and though it made him uncomfortable, I told him what I wanted him to do, and he told me what he wanted done. No tube, or life support if it affected the quality of his life; if he were to recover. His family ostracized me, as a wife, nurse, friend and family member from all of my husbands care. They wouldnt let the Spokane, WA VA speak to me, though everything we did for one another put the other first. As a Hospice nurse, and his wife, I wanted the best for him and coordinate his care. When we last spoke, he said that he didnt want me to come. I respected that because he wanted to be close to his Daughters, and the two Grandkids he loved so: Jacob Stuart, and Alexia Harken. I asked him if he wanted a divorce, and he said stridently, No! I told him if he ever wanted a divorce, all he had to do is tell me, and I would divorce him! I reminded him that I always thought his friend, Kate, was in love with him! He always, laughed and said that she had had her chance! Well, since he told me he was renting a room from her, that he would have another chance! My husband was the finest man that I have ever known. We met, and slept together while in the service, back in 1974. We were always, friends, for about four decades, when I came across his foto on FB. We connected, dated via phone (courted) and decided to marry. We were married on June 28, 2013, the very same day, coincidentally that Prop 8 and DOMA were overturned. Our marriage is still on You Tube, as Veronika Fimbress Wedding. We watched it together before he left, making comments while holding me, laughing and crying. I will always love and miss you, my most beautiful, loving and beloved husband! May your beautiful and loving spirit be free in the Universe, and has accepted you willingly. I know you are with me now and always! May your physical body Rest In Peace! Love always, your devastated and loving wife!
Posted on: Sat, 11 Oct 2014 21:03:26 +0000
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