IM NOT GOOD LOOKING Someone asked: I think i am not good looking and i feel complex among people. It affects me a lot. Answer: Looks are something that are not under ones control. Different looks are allotted by Allah Almighty to different people, according to a great hikmah. Man did not choose where he/she will be born. Some have dark skin, some have fair skin. Some have sharp features, some have other kind of features. Some have thin lips, some have thick lips. Some have broad nose, some have sharp nose. Some have wide and big eyes, some have other kind of eyes. Some have good height, some have short height. All this is given by Allah subhana wataaala. Looks and features are inherited through the family. What can a person do? Whats there to feel sad about? One has to live in this world, which is a temporary place. One just cannot hide from people. One has to spend life somehow. Life of this world is just a test. Different people have different tests. So why feel any complex about something on which you have no control and is from Allah subhana wataala. Some dont have good looks, but have great soul, therefore loved by people; some have great looks, but bad soul, therefore hated by people. It is just the filthy standards of society which make others feel deprived of something. What matters is the inner being and the body language. One cannot change the features and looks much, but one can change the way he/she behaves and the body language. One should have confidence and always a smile on face. This is sunnah. One should take care of all kinds of cleanliness i.e of face, mouth, hair, body etc, and eat according to sunnah, as well as do exercise. One should learn good speaking skills and facial expressions. There are so many tips for such things available on internet these days. I guarantee you that in the end, what matters is body language. A very attractive person might look good in a picture or while still, but the moment he/she starts speaking, or behaving, or walking etc in an odd way, might put others off. So a lot depends on body language. Looks are given by Allah, what we can do is to maintain what we have, by wearing good and clean clothes, which is sunnah, and by acting on all other sunnahs. Thirdly, it is amazing that one complains of being bad looking, while neglecting that he/she has a nose to breath, eyes to see, mouth to eat, hands to use, feet to walk and run, tongue to taste and speak, ears to hear and above all good health. It is just amazing how one can complain. Many people dont have listening capability, others dont have eyes to see, yet others dont have hands or feet to use. Some have severe skin disease, leprosy, asthma, broken lip, disabled legs and feet, blood cancer etc. Yet you have nothing and Allah blessed you with health and everything. How can you complain? Dont you see so many disabled and ill people around you! Lastly, never let anyone feel you deprived. Those who make fun of others actually themselves are insecure. They have no character and are hated by people. They do not enjoy respect in society because of bad character. What you must do is to behave according to sunnah. Life of this world is not real life and real life is in jannah where a person will be granted whatever he/she wishes for. As for this life, be patient and utilize whatever you have to the best of your abilities. Hope it answers the question.
Posted on: Tue, 15 Oct 2013 07:03:48 +0000
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