INSPIRATION THAT REALLY WORK ! An excerpt from THE 100/0 PRINCIPLE (BY AL RITTER) Step : 1 – Determine what you can do to make the relationship work…then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not. Step : 2 – Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada. Step : 3 – Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying) to affect you. In other words, don’t take the belt. Step : 4 – Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don’t respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return. At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being “knower” and shift to being the “learner.” Avoid Knower statements/thoughts like “that won’t work,” “I’m right, you are wrong,” “I know it and you don’t,” “I’ll teach you,” “that’s just the way it is,” “I need to tell you what I know,” etc. Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like “Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation,” “I could be wrong,” “I wonder if there is anything of value here,” “I wonder if…” etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious! Principle Paradox : This may strike you as strange, but there’s the paradox. When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. Whent that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.
Posted on: Tue, 03 Sep 2013 15:29:43 +0000
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