Introspection is a powerful tool for personal growth, albeit one that can cause a great deal of pain, humiliation, and mourning. All of this time, I thought that a mental parasite or emotional vampire would be obvious in their actions, but they are not. Believing that we know all of the emotional tricks humans have up their sleeves is, in hindsight, a bit arrogant. The mental parasite works swiftly and discreetly, setting themselves up as a victim from the very beginning. They will never claim any fault for their part in failed relationships. Any suggestion otherwise is met with hostility toward the other party. You are placed in a position where concern for their well-being becomes top priority. They place their ego and insecurities in your hands as if they were your responsibility. Worrying about yourself will not be tolerated as it is viewed as selfish and narcissistic. The selfishness you display by not meeting their every whim will be met with anger. Any conflict to their ego or insecurities will also be met with anger, followed by emotional manipulation and gaslighting. You will find yourself exhausted. All of the time. Youll try responding with a natural emotional plea, but will be told that youre being manipulative. Youll respond angrily and will be told that youre mean and heartless. Youll respond objectively and will be told that youre an emotionless sociopath. Youll continue responding objectively because it hurts the least. Youll continue drifting emotionally away. Go ahead and try to do something for yourself. Any attempt to do so will be thwarted by one of their many needs. Each child-like task they claim an inability to perform becomes another pebble in your bucket of tasks until its too heavy for one person, but youll continue to carry it because its the right thing to do. The victim said so. Dont you love them? Do you want everyone to think youre the selfish person they told everyone that you are? Be ready for the judgment that will come when the bucket becomes too heavy for even you, because rest assured, it will come. The parasite not only convinced you, but everyone around them. They are the victim, after all. You will watch the attitudes of those around you change. Those who used to ask you how you managed the weight you bear now look at you with judgment. You wonder how they have suddenly blinded themselves to your suffering; however, you remain silent, knowing that those who ever truly cared (and those who have seasoned bullshit-detectors) will come forward. Many will simply become influenced enemies with friendly faces, never trying to understand, but merely siding with the loudest voice. Never let anyone else set up shop as the victim in your life. Do not let them place a guilt on you that isnt yours to carry. Keep them at arms length. They dont change. No good can come of this.
Posted on: Tue, 22 Jul 2014 17:11:38 +0000
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