It would be foolish and cowardice of me to ignore and accept abusive and violent behaviors that are sourced from a drive to be an oppressive and dominating force as a means of self-defense and self-preservation. In the move towards developing community, there is nothing within me that makes me willing and eager to unite with anyone who utilizes bullying, dominating and oppressive tactics. Such undermines the dignity and stature of community members. Although I am a petite young woman, I am not inclined to be submissive and yielding to dominant and aggressive females or violent and hostile males. Might does not make one right, in fact, resorting to hostile aggression as a means to solve problems is very immature behavior that is rooted in fear. The threat of violence should be nonexistent within one’s family and community setting, one should not have to fear for one’s physical safety due to consuming a barrage of verbal threats, physical violence and psychological abuse. To not stand up to such behavior will only weaken one’s presence into an oppressed, fearful and subservient being who bows and buckle to violence and violation as a means of survival. The whole nature of hostile aggression is to ward one away from speaking up and speaking against violent and abusive behavior. It is intended to cause one to hesitate when it comes to refusing to bow and submit to oppression. Yet, a life of oppression is not a life worth living. And in no way is it acceptable to exist in an environment that demands that we cater to the whims, wants and wishes of our aggressor in order to sooth his or her fiery rage. When one resorts to violence as a means to manipulate, dominate and control, one is not assuming the position as a leader, but instead, assuming the position as a bully. This is usually because one refuses to address one’s unhealthy and destructive attitudes and behaviors that would allow for harmony, unity and cohesiveness. A bully is one who physically attacks and verbally assaults those who are perceived as weaker, smaller, less intelligent and inferior. As a bully, one can never form trust and hence will always have to deal with rebellions and revolts because it is human nature to resist domination and control and seek a sense of freedom and liberation at any time one sees a way from oppression. I cannot unite with those who employ hostile aggression as an acceptable way of interaction because I do not share that value. I cannot work in harmony with those who find it acceptable to speak and relate in a threatening and demeaning way in order to keep others in a false place and position for their own personal comfort and security. In reflecting about family and community; we must be willing to change, heal, grow and evolve beyond that which has kept us isolated and alone individuals. In the desire to develop healthy, wholesome, productive and prosperous relationships we must shed our defenses, peel away our false sense of self, and become unattached to our identity. We must be willing to be called to attention if we are ever going to be able to weed out those aspects that comprises who we think we are that are based upon mental, physical and emotional disease and disorder. The dysfunctional attitudes and behaviors that we have perpetuated without correction is not who we are, it is how we have been conditioned to behave. If our behaviors does not serve our interest and does not allow us to fulfill our needs for tender love and care, then it is best to change our behaviors and renew ourselves.
Posted on: Sun, 31 Aug 2014 10:03:03 +0000
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