Its apparently common for those who have Narcissism to feel personally attacked when someone does not completely agree with them or hold the same point of view, or believe everything they say to be absolutely true, correct, and COMPLETE, or to be the absolute best and only thing to do. Even entertaining the thought that they could have missed something, could have misinterpreted something, or could have misunderstood something, or might not be 100% right about something (anything) seems to cause the Narcissist to feel as if they are being lambasted, humiliated, bullied, dismissed, disrespected, nagged at, or even abused. It doesnt matter how big or small the issue is, how big or small the mistake was, or HOW you really said something (theyre going to hear it as if youre blasting them, not how you really said it), ...NOR DOES IT MATTER IF THEIR MISTAKE PUTS SOMEONE ELSES LIFE AND LIMB IN DANGER. (Look out theres a truck coming! is an ATTACK on their character! How dare you question their ability to drive, and to be as aware of all things as God!... or a Super Hero..!. Just because the truck would have caved in your side of the car if you hadnt yelled is no excuse!) They also often perceive NOISES or any type of emotional vent or expression as being AT THEM or ABOUT THEM, or an ATTACK AGAINST THEM. (Literally, everything is about them.) So if you make the sound of a sigh, or a huff, because youre either tired, frustrated, or relieved about something that has ZERO to do with them, if they hear you they are very likely to DEFEND THEMSELVES... against your attack...or your demands and control...or your whining and crying... If you make some kind of sound while riding in their car, theyll of course assume youre SAYING SOMETHING about their car or their driving, or the way they look, or something they said, or the music thats on... or the street their on... the LAST thing they will think of is YOU, that maybe you just needed AIR, or maybe youre a little tired. Either the absence of empathy ability in their brain, or the lack of balanced guidance in interpreting other peoples expressions and tones can result in this kind of presumptuous or skewed interpretation. Your tone is a bit flat because your tired, they interpret it as you being whiny, snotty, rude, or cold toward THEM. You make a big sigh because youre frustrated or tired from working on something, they interpret it as you being whiny, bored, or mad at them. You arent talkative when you first get up in the morning (but not rude), they interpret it as you being grumpy and having an attitude. Youre anxious about something serious that you have to deal with, they interpret it as you being grumpy, angry, or hysterical, or that youre TRYING TO MAKE THEM DO SOMETHING FOR YOU. We all misinterpret other peoples tones and expressions, even words. But those with Narcissism cant conceive of themselves making mistakes. They believe their interpretations are completely accurate and will treat others according to those interpretations, no matter how skewed they are. If anyone stands up to them about their treatment, the Narcissist will either defend themselves or further disrespect and dismiss the person, but they wont admit they were wrong, nor will they ask for more information or insight about it. Other peoples feelings... (or safety, health, point of view, knowledge, or well-being) ...are not their concern. Only their feelings (and everything else) are their concern. (Side note: If a person with Narcissism drives unsafely today, he or she will almost certainly drive unsafely tomorrow, and for all the days after that. Because there is not going to be any learning, nor will be there be any consideration of passengers in the car. They drive how they drive, and thats exactly perfect, so its not going to change. In other words if you can avoid riding with them in the future, do. Youll be saving yourself huge stress which is damaging, and keeping your body safe. Of course if you tell them this theyll be HIGHLY OFFENDED, but they wont drive better because of it, and will likely drive worse on purpose in order to teach you a lesson.)
Posted on: Sun, 31 Aug 2014 19:26:51 +0000
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