• Jusuf Jones, this is my/our reply to your marriage question. 1. I want to be a paid author via writing a chapter in Mubarakah Fatologist Ibrahim and husband’s pending book on marriage adventures. 2. No two marriages are the same therefore each have their own needs. 3. A marriage is like a garden, it must be worked. Sometimes it needs water other times it needs food or whatever. 4. Marriage like each partner, life and the weather changes. 5. Marriage has sunny, stormy, rainy and rainbow days. 6. All marriages are different, just like the people in it. 7. Marriage is a Life Journey and it grows as the partners grow in the development/growth of THE MARRIAGE. Our (Amin and Mateen’s) stuff: We remember and focus on why we got married. Our reason was bigger than us and it is still bigger than us. Amin, husband calls our life together a daily adventure. Wow! What an adventure! - We knew each other less than ONE MONTH before we got married. We were blessed to have very few examples of “married models” to copy. No model marriages! Thank God for the ever growing original marriages. Advise to married folks. Do your own marriage, your way. Fake it until you make it. It takes 30 days to make a habit. KEEP REDOING IT. REDECORATE IT. Keep doing another 30 days. Focus on your Marriage Life Journey Goals. Plan some more. Our views and ON GOING WORK on our marriage: 1. Pray often and a lot. Any place and any time. (On the toilet, in the car, in the grocery checkout line, before, during and after...) Sincere regular and often communication with God carry us through those Marriage Moments and helps focus on staying sane during those many Moments. (The Marriage Moments are tests and trials to see if and how well we will apply God’s Will in our marriage.) 2. Communicate, don’t assume, we change our thoughts and views often. Change is a hugh part of self and marriage growth. 3. Listen in silence often and a lot. Learn. 4. Love is inside us and it is our responsibility to show, share, and grow it with each other. 5. Sometimes/often no human solution is best in our marriage, God has the solutions. This leads us back to #1. Amin just added that he thinks our marriage is exciting, unique, growing and getting better. I agree and I think it is unbelievable and surely an awesome Life Journey Adventure. We knew each other less than 4 weeks before we got married and we will be married 40 years in 4 months. Forty years is a LONG time. Marriage works if you both work it, enjoy your rest periods with peace and have fun often between the Marriage Moments. Got to go, we are planning another 30 day habit. LOL Habits change, but we love the chalenges. Mr. and Mrs. Amin Hasan
Posted on: Tue, 24 Sep 2013 14:11:49 +0000
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