Kindness is supposed to beget kindness but often it does not end up this way in this ugly society of ours. Let me give you a simple personal experience although there are plenty that I can give. Take my USJ neighbor - a Chinese family as an example. Let me list down just 10 examples I have done for them. (1) I found RM300 cash in RM50 notes just outside their gate. I called them out assuming it is their money. Others would have pocketed it. The wife came out and said it is her marketing money and said I am a good person when sometime back she scolded me because my bougainvillea flowers (now no more) flew into her place. (2) Cats and kittens went inside their car porch roof and I called the fire brigade to send firemen to catch the cats and paid the firemen a RM50 tip although it is none of my business. (3) Their garden tap was pouring litres of water into the drain one night years ago and I called them out to switch off the tap. Others wouldnt bother. (4) When a company sent me a Chinese New Year big hamper with two bottles of expensive red wine to my house I wasnt in and the delivery man passed it to this neighbor. When my family came home from somewhere, they passed the hamper to me. Others would simply just say thank you but guess what I did? I gave them one of the two bottles of wine. My wife thought I was mad. (5) When this neighbors daughter gave birth to her first child, a girl, we gave this little girl presents. As she grew up, we gave her even more and that includes a few new toys as well as used toys from my children - but they are as good as new..including kiddie books - all looking brand new. But the mother of the little girl (neighbours daughter) didnt even once say word of thank you to us. Never mind. (6) When they replaced their common old fencing with us (ours are terrace houses) replacing it with green coloured fencing, the wife asked us to contribute RM80. I was about to pay p when the husband wanting face said No need. A few years later, we built five foot high walls in the front and back of our house. The front portion alone costs more than RM5,000 and I reckon that the common wall between my house and this neighbours house could easily cost more than RM2,000. I didnt even ask them for a sen and even plastered and nicely painted their side. Others would have left their side of the wall un-plastered. (7) When this neigbhour and I asked the same person to cement up the small patch of the public road leading up to our two driveways - and she got into a quarrel with the minor contractor for not placing metal meshing before cementing, I again spoke out for her and ended up arguing with this man while she remained quiet. (8) One day some people came to their house and yelled at them outside their gate. I overheard a man saying: Your bloody daughter used my sons handphone and phoned up RM900+ in phone bills..you all come out!. I think their daughter split up with her boyfriend. This neighbour family hid inside their house and refused to respond. Instead like a good samaritan again and which is none of my business, I shouted at them to clear out as they are causing a lot of commotion. That family left and again there was not a word of thanks. (9) When one of her daughters was jobless for months, this neigbhour asked us to help to look for a job for her daughter and we tried our best to ask some people we know. But she didnt get a job and now she is working in a pub or bar coming home at 2 am or later every day. (10) For 23 years since we first moved into our USJ house, we did not fight for parking space. They have 4 cars but later when one of their daughters got married and took her car, they are let with three cars. We always have only two cars. One park inside our house and one just outside the gate. Now look at how they park their cars. This neighbour has renovated the porch. Instead of the original bumper to bumper parking, now they can park their cars side by side. They occupy for 23 long years the road shoulder opposite our row of houses (there are no houses facing our row directly). So they have one car parked opposite and two cars inside their compound..but no car in front of their gate! This is for their convenience of moving in and out. Fine. When my old Volvo developed some engine problem and couldnt move now and then, I parked my Volvo in the public space for a few hours. Guess what they did. They would quickly make sure that space is occupied all the time. One day they even parked one car for a whole week without moving. I quickly parked elsewhere far away but it is not easy to find a parking space. This neighbour would even booked the road shoulder directly in front of her house - by parking their car there first and then shift it when their mahjong kakis come in their big 4WD (they would gamble till 2am to even 4am). What infuriates us is that this precious space can be used for their friends and mahjong kakis when I as a resident cannot even park there as they claim it is theirs. We cleared the grass there and put some sand. So it is ours as we have been parking there all these years, the husband claimed. BTW, since my road is almost at a T-junction (side of T-junction), there is no open space directly opposite our house). I forgave them for the first intrusion over my Volvo which eventually was towed to my bungalow after parking far away for months. We already have a brand new car..totally 3 cars. When I recently have some renovations and we needed to park opposite as we want to allow our driveway for the carpenters big 4WD to drive in etc, this selfish and unreasonable neighbor again did the same thing to us - occupying fully the opposite space. Conclusion: After all what we have done for them (they have done nothing for us) over the years, we decided enough is enough. No point telling them that the open space is public property and not theirs, we decided to not talk to them ever again. There are other selfish incidents by this neighbour but too long to narrate here. So is this video all realistic? Not necessary. Kindness does not often begets kindness. When you are too kind, some people will take you for a fool and take advantage of you.
Posted on: Sun, 20 Oct 2013 23:50:13 +0000
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