Lasting memories are made in turmoil strife and happiness. Because no matter what love will survive and endure from the depths of life to the heartache of loss love will survive. To love means to hold on and not let go to love means to give a lasting piece of yourself expecting nothing in return. You may ask how love survives death for without death their wouldn’t be life and without life there wouldn’t be love. You can not hold love its not something you touch love is earned love is given freely and reflected on through memories made good and bad. Reflected on through forgiveness and reflection of a laugh a shrug a hey do you remember when. I remember the first time I met Jim, I was outside with my grandpa building a scratching pole for a cat. My grandpa paralyzed in a wheelchair and me with a hammer carpet nails and wood. Jim helped me to finish building it got on the ground with me and started working with me I was almost 10 if not 10 at the time. After we went to the beach with my mom. She must of knew I liked him when he completely messed up my hamburger and got everything I didn’t want on it less what I asked for… but I ate it without complaining or saying a word. Truly at that moment he didn’t realize what he had just done till my mom later told him how horribly wrong he got my food. 24 years later and I still get the same thing on my hamburger ( mayo and lettuce only) Just as we chose to love Jim. Jim chose to love us, two children he didn’t have to assume the responsibility of but chose to out of love for my brother and myself. Because of this choice he ended up with not only two kids but later in life 4 grandkids he cherished. One of the favorite stories he would constantly tell my children about me was when I was younger and being the obedient child I was… My brother and I were outside playing soccer in the front yard and of course the goal was the front of the house near none other than a window. After about the 6 times we were told to stop kicking the ball toward the house we decided to stop… well only because I scored a goal right through the window and apparently Jims friend Rick, who was sitting at the computer inside well I decided he should become part of the game. One fatal kick glass shattered ball entered home and Rick well he was off guard. And of course Jim told me again that we shouldn’t be playing soccer there. At that point I decided I should believe him. Or ill never forget the time we heard Jim singing in the shower. My mother decided to record him. He would sing then yell to shut the door. My mom got a tape recorder bent down to start recording it and bam, Jim had kicked the door shut (he had no idea she was there) my mom got hit by the door flung over the sectional right onto the couch. Now days a you tube sensation she would have been. In 1996 Jim was so proud of his new Raider colored Ford F150 He even let me drive it. I jumped into the drivers seat put it in reverse and then backed into the culvert. I then opened the door looked put the truck in park and got out. Lucky for us this new Fords door automatically locked. The truck running and all the doors locked and headlights on. Jim was not a happy camper. The years Jim spent loving me didn’t stop when I turned 18. This passion and sensitivity he showed me continued with my children. He was in the delivery room with Jimmy and myself when I had my first daughter, watching football with the doctor. He genuinely loved his grandchildren he would create story lines with my youngest daughter Morgan. They would play hide and seek with walkie talkies. He would camp out in the yard under stars with Morgan this particular night the helicopters where out looking for someone Jims great idea was to get up run real quick inside. You could only imagine what the people in the helicopters He recently drove me to Gainesville for my daughters doctor appointment. As Hayley and I are in the back room I happen to look up as Hayley is pointing do you see that out the window. Jim and James are running outside on the sidewalk playing superhero game…well the doctor shut the blind there went our show. He even let Hayley drive the 5 spd Jeep when she called him to pick her up from school. Jim was our rock whenever I needed an ear or a shoulder he was there. I cant remember not once him refusing to be there refusing to help to come when needed pr just because you asked. He was honest reliable hardworking giving passionate caring responsible goofy and could pull a comment for a laugh from nowhere. He was a listner well respected and walked a walk of faith not only in words but he demonstrated all of this by his actions because after all actions do speak and reflect louder than words. And In all of the characteristics I mentioned above the most important not said is Jim was loved. And like I said at the beginning no matter what love will survive and endure from the depths of life to the heartache of loss love will survive. Thank you for choosing me to be your daughter it has been 24 years of love
Posted on: Tue, 25 Nov 2014 01:40:04 +0000
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