Love can touch deeper - STORIES TO GUIDE THE YOUNGSTERS Story 1 Daughter – “mommy I want to tell you something.” Reema – “Yes dear, tell me.” Daughter – “Ma, a boy is coming after me at school. He says he loves me. Ma, I feel as though my mind is also shifting towards him.” Reema – “what did you say? Your mind is also…. Subahanallah! What a girl you are! How dare you say that to me, to your mom that your mind is also shifting!! How many times I had asked you not to keep friendship with that Shakira. See now she has spoiled your mind. Don’t try to bring any disgrace to the family. If I hear such things I will stop you from the school, if your brother gets to know he will kill you and if your dad gets to know he will arrange for you a marriage soon. Now go and learn, don’t even ever think of it. Go now.” Daughter – (to herself) “they try to treat me as a caged bird. They are trying to deny my freedom. Why shouldn’t I love him after all when he is caring for me than them?” ***** Story 2 Daughter – “Mom, I wanna discuss with you a matter,” Zahra – “Yes you can proceed.” Daughter – “A boy studying at our school gave me a love letter. These days I feel that as though I have started to love him. What shall I do mom?” Zahra – "Ow, Sarah, these things are common in these ages. Just drop it, it is natural. Even I had faced such problems." Daughter – (to herself) wow! It seems that falling in love with some one is a natural thing. As mom doesn’t worry much, this must be a simple thing not a big issue. It seems that mom will get me the approval if I love him. So what fears girl, tell him that you love him too.’ ***** Story 3 Daughter – “Ummi, I wish to discuss with you a problem that I am facing. ” Raihana – “look dear, I’m your mom. You can feel free to discuss any thing with me. Think of me as your friend and tell me your problem dear!” Daughter – “Ummi, you see I heard that a boy in my class loves me. At first it didn’t influence me much, but now my mind seems a bit disturbed and I fear that i might incline towards him too+.” Raihana – “Darling, first of all I’m very happy that you are discussing this matter with me. Dear, these feelings at this age, are a natural thing. Yet we can’t simply leave it saying it is natural because some times a small emotion can change our whole life. The better way to describe this feeling is infatuation dear, not love. I didn’t say this feeling is wrong or loving is wrong, but this is not the time for that. Indeed you have all the right to choose your life partner, but this is not the age for that. Why should you spoil your name, your studies and break the trust your family and your teachers have kept on you? This is the best period to learn and show your talents. Make use of it and leave the other things in Allah’s hand and be patient. Just sacrifice the idea of establishing a haram relationship and Allah will bring you a better person for you in the future to maintain a halal relationship. We trust our daughter, we know that she will not bring any disgrace to our family. Keep on concentrating on your studies. Just don’t let these silly things bother you. Don’t forget that this Ummi is there for you to discuss your problems today and always. Now go and learn ma. If he troubles you just say that to us and we shall look into that... ” Daughter – (to herself) “Alhamdulillah, what a nice friend my mom is. You are right Ummi, this is not the age for that. In sha Allah I won’t dash your hopes. Jazakalalhuhair a for your explanations. Now I’m clear. Love you ma!” ***** Dear sisters who were/are/will you be? Reema? Zahra? or Raihana? If the love of the person comes in the middle has the power to change your child’s mind this much, just think, being the first human to enter her life, how much power your love will have if you use it properly? Mind that love can touch deeper than other things.
Posted on: Sun, 30 Jun 2013 08:34:26 +0000
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