Me: I can see your son loves bobo drink too Friend : Yes o, this is his fifth bottle today and I know it’s not his last Me: haba! It’s too much for him now Friend: he likes it even if I don’t give him he takes it from the refrigerator himself (talking proudly of her son’s achievement i.e his ability to take the drink from the refrigerator himself). This is a conversation I had with a lady a while ago. I wanted to tell her the dangers of not saying NO to her son and the effect of artificial sugar she is pushing down his throat, at the same time I didn’t know her kind of person and the first thing that came out of her mouth is “You don’t have a child how would you know how to train him”. We have a lot of mama’s out there who can’t say no to their children. Its like the only love they get is from their children, so theyre afraid to discipline them because they think their children wont love them. “If I don’t give him he will cry and I hate seeing my child crying”. My dear mamas that is not an excuse. He is not crying because he is ill, or in danger, he is crying because you are protecting him. We give children what they want as soon as they start crying, and when they see how powerful their tears are, they use it as a weapon against us. My Mama always said crying wouldn’t kill a child. Make sure he/she is well fed, bathe them and give them toys when they cry for something they don’t need, do not give them., I had a neighbor who was angry when she heard her son crying, she found out that her son took my brother’s work tool that was very sharp and it was important to my brother, clearly this boy could either injure himself or destroy the tool but she didn’t care she opened her mouth and said “is he not a child, he will play with it for a while then get tired of it and look for some other object”. Hmmmmm Please lets learn to say no, dont allow your child use tears as a weapon or blackmail to get want they want at all time. They don’t necessary need all the things they ask for, this could make them grow into bullies and very mean kids. - contributed by Ameenat
Posted on: Fri, 31 Oct 2014 13:07:57 +0000
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