Met Barbara Tiffany and her daughter for lunch. This is the lovely lady I mention in my book, The Right Thing, who as a stranger to me in 2003 loaned me $200 to cope until the next payday after the subject of the book nearly bankrupted me by a few dollars. It was so lovely to see her and it reminded me of all the precious people in my life and my FB life, of which some Ive never physically met but who become the new version of precious pen pals. I recall a night at work when a dear colleague was in such distress because out of the blue one of her FB friends had defriended her. Im being very honest now...theres no other way to be. I thought, as she lamented all night, Oh for God sake, get a grip. But life has a way of teaching you what you need to learn. Being defriended in this current social medium can be devastating. So Im so sorry lovely lady that I wasnt more support for you that evening. Ive thought about what it means, after all, its a new paradigm. Those living a hundred years ago wouldnt have these stressors to live with...let alone the bullying that goes on in Cyber Space!! Yes, Ive thought about what it means and the variations of consequences. If you end up with loads of people who suddenly appear as your FB friends that youve never heard of, then defriending them takes no emotional toll on you. If its a friend that you really loved and thought loved you, then thats another story...pain, terrible pain. But if its a family member then the pain is agony. The psychological message is: Dont bother me. I dont care about whats going on in your life. That is devastating!! I love technology although I really dont understand it all, and I hate not knowing but I have a dyslexic brain that limits my understanding...something I fight fiercely, but no amount of fighting my limitations changes anything. There are somethings I just dont get, but being a Dr. that doesnt mean Im stupid. Im far from it, but there are things that go over my head...thats okay, because there are things I see that you normal folks dont see ;) I feel blessed to have this unique brain. So, I guess what Im saying is that in this new world of ours where we connect and love each other through FaceBook, please dont defriend people on a whim, just because youre pissed off about something, whatever it is, think about the consequences of your actions on other people. Actually, haha, this is no different to pistols at dawn, two hundred years ago...the message us the same. Think about the consequences of your actions upon other people. Perhaps with all our technology, life and love is no different than it was two hundred years ago. I absolutely love my FB friends, and also those who chose to leave.
Posted on: Fri, 03 Oct 2014 06:02:21 +0000
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