More from Trevor Blake: A lot of the emails I receive betray the sender by the language they use. Someone might be telling me about use of quiet time and then comment that he or she will ”hopefully” make it habitual. That means they won’t. Today someone used the word “possibly” many times in the same paragraph. Again, it betrays what they really think. Because words trigger thoughts these words do not help anyone wanting to change their situation for the better. I thought it would be useful to remind us all of a few commonly used words and phrases that have to be eliminated from our vocabularies. Try replacing them with the phrases following the = sign. “If” means deep down you are certain it will never happen for you. If I were rich I would… = WHEN I am rich I will… If I owned this company I would… = When I am my own boss… If only… = It will be great when… Using “when” might seem odd or uncomfortable at first, but eventually it becomes a habit. “I Can’t,” “I doubt,” “possibly,” “hopefully,” “I wish,” “God willing…” are the sort of words that trigger thoughts and images of near misses and failures. Those thoughts return to you (they have your blueprint) to provide a life of hope and possibilities. You want neither. Hoping for success is not success. I can’t stand it when = I prefer it when… I can’t understand why = I’d like to understand … I’m thinking of possibly starting my own company = When I start… Hopefully, I’ll be able to afford it one day = When I can afford it… “I wish she wouldn’t speak to me like that = I prefer to… I choose… “Hate,” is a word that is always accompanied by strong emotions. As both words and emotions are triggered by neuro-chemical reactions, the amount of energy in the word when it is sent out as a thought is larger. We all slip up using this word and the trick is to immediately counter it with a thought of something you really want. I hate it when = I would rather/I prefer/I’m looking forward to… I can’t stand being in debt all the time… When I am debt free… It does my head in when he… It would be better if… Ailments: We can keep ourselves in a lot of pain with the words we use. We can also cause pain in others when we choose to phrase things negatively. Recall the mirror neurons in our brains do not need to experience the same event to empathize with it. Fear of illness and speaking that way can cause the very thing we fear. A good example is the story of Anita Moorjani “Dying to be Me,” in which her fear of cancer (after family and friends died of it) brought on her own demise. When she was given the choice to die or live fearlessly and chose the latter her cancer disappeared. I’m tired = I could use more energy My pain is wearing me down = when I no longer feel this pain I will Not bad = fantastic Oh my aching back = Oh to have a young man’s back again Weather: everyone’s favorite topic. This weather sucks = I like all weathers especially extremes. Great excuse for cuddling up with a book/film. Read any good books lately/seen any great films this year? Just a few tips. If you make them a habit, you will begin to develop the tendency to eliminate other negative statements and replace them with phrases that are to your benefit.
Posted on: Thu, 27 Jun 2013 03:33:11 +0000
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