My Birth name is Alexander Diogenes Roy Lago. I am in search of my biological mother who gave birth to me on August 26, 1963. I was born in Mount Vernon, NY, County of Westchester. I was given for adoption at birth and Spence Chapin Adoption Agency of New York City handled the adoption. I was adopted under Closed Adoption. I kindly and respectfully thank this group for accepting my request to join. I created my page with the main objective of finding my biological mother who made the ultimate sacrifice by giving up her right to parenting. I was provided non identifying information from the adoption agency and knew that she made sure that who ever adopted me came from the same background. I am aware that she was not in any condition financially or emotionally to be able to raise me. What she doesnt know is that my adoptive mother always felt blessed adopting me and was the best mother a man could have. She carried the torch to the very end. And speaking of end, she passed away loosing her battle to cancer which originated in her womb. She was, is and always will be the most wonderful woman in this whole world. I created my page because in the State of New York adoptees cannot find information about birth parents. I find this law unfair but by creating my page I am also creating an online foot print so that anyone googleing my name can find me regardless of this limiting law. I am aware that my biological mother is 82 years old and I am also aware that she may be deceased as well, however I am hopeful that she may be alive and looking for me too. By sharing my story I am leaving myself vulnerable to criticism and judgement. Someone who doesnt understand may call me ungrateful, opportunist and a betrayer. The truth is that ever since I was old enough to understand my parents always told me I was adopted. My adoptive mother passed away almost 30 years ago but always knew that I was this curious inquisitive little busy body and told me that I could look for my biological mother at any time. My adoptive father is 86 years old and has given me his blessing. My adoptive parents were a Missionary Pastor couple and my upbringing was stable my whole life. I never experienced betrayal within the home and always had a great example. In 1988, I set out to look for my biological mother. I took a daytrip from Massachusetts to Mount Vernon, NY and decided to go to City Hall. The clerk could not find a birth certificate and I left disappointed. As I returned to my vehicle I realized that I had parked in front of the Mount Vernon Hospital. I thought for a minute and realized that if I was born there my medical record would be there also. Hmmmmm, up the elevator I went and arrived at the Medical Records Dept., filled out the request and returned home to wait for the records copies to arrive. They arrived 10 days later and as I read them I discovered my mothers name. I had no clue what her name was. Her name is Laura Lago. My search was at a stand still until 1998. In 1998 a friend who had a computer encouraged me that she could help me. I was actually painting her house. This friend turned out to be Steve Carell, the actors sister in law. She provided me with information, searched and searched but the quest ran dry. Priorities in my life also changed and I lost interest in searching. In 2008 my first born son Jonathan Kalani died poisoned under suspicious circumstances. This death was much more devastating to me than my own adoptive mothers passing. I nearly ended my own life. Slowly recovering from this loss I suffered a catastrophic fall from a two story roof nearly ending my life but surviving after a 13 month recovery. I lost my house in the process and financially I was in ruin and now 2015, nearly 5 years later I have had an awakening that now has brought me to your door step. My focus and my quest to find my biological mother is renewed with a purpose not only for me but for my three surviving children, Erica Danielle, my adopted daughter who is expecting her first child at the age of 29, who is married, my second daughter Alanna Maria 27, my biological daughter from my first marriage to Anna Stuart and Jonathans sister who is also married and lives in North Carolina and lastly my little Prince, Daniel Jose who is 13. My children deserve to know who my mother is and I need to find her for them also. This is my story. There is much more to tell but in time I will share more through my page. My main objective and the main reason why Im here is to gain experience searching, networking with others who know how and where to look, learn by helping and inspiring others who may be hopeless and need encouragement. I endured a roller coaster of emotions with this. At times I felt special but at other times I felt abandoned and rejected. I had to learn how to be disciplined and manage my emotions instead of blaming others for what I have been through. I had anger issues and often felt short changed and many times I listened to others criticize and offend me with words trying to belittle me to a level lower than what I was feeling. My advice is that everything that happens has a purpose. I started looking at the larger picture and that is where my purpose lies. I come to you today hoping that you can show me the way and show me how to do the work and I will do the rest. So far I have found wonderful people and I know I will find more. This is no longer about me and what Alexander the Great needs but it is about us, this group, us who are searching for whatever reason. Ultimately I seek an opportunity to thank my biological mother for making that incredible difficult decision 51 years ago and to bring her peace, love and joy because I am a grateful man for many reasons and she is worthy of honor. Thank you for accepting me to this group. God bless you for blessing me. Happy New Year 2015 Forgive me for taking over this page with my long winded story!
Posted on: Fri, 02 Jan 2015 00:56:56 +0000
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