NEVER CHOOSE FORGIVENESS! DEAR FRIENDS- Contrary to both ancient and modern religious and spiritual teachings forgiveness isnt really necessary at all for finding inner peace and genuine happiness. And it always suppresses your buried feelings and blocked life-force if it is willfully imposed over the spontaneous truth that your body and emotions are telling you! People who are stuck in endless anger and hurt often are emotionally exhausted and take refuge in a suppressive forgiveness manouver in order to find rest from their inner turmoil. In these cases I have found that either the person was inhibited from the full flow of their healthy rage- which is a prerequisite for closure and healing- or another feeling such as heartbroken sadness was too blocked to be fully expressed and released. People in that situation need to get the help required to release their emotional blocks, come fully alive and feel and express their anger and pain more completely. Then blessed relief is obtained without the numbness of suppressive forgiveness. Other people choose forgiveness because they feel afraid, guilty and/or ashamed of the anger/rage/hate they have toward one who has deeply hurt them. Especially when the betrayer or abuser is a parent! As a child we are almost universally taught to feel guilty about our natural feelings of anger toward our parents regarding the hurtful things they do to us. In these circumstances a struggling person unknowingly suppresses their anger back into numbness, thereby quieting their guilt. But indeed nothing has been healed or resolved! Rather the Authentic Self has been further damaged by the unconscious surrender to the guilt and the belief that the anger, hate etc. is bad and unspiritual . What ultimately works to grant you full emotional freedom, unrestricted aliveness and profound inner peace is keeping faith and trust in yourself by thoroughly staying in your body and feelings- going deeper and deeper and deeper over time until all the pain and anger has been made conscious and expressed. And is genuinely and permanently gone! This is truly a heroic and life- giving journey as it inevitably takes you to the core of unredeemed suffering you have carried from your infancy, childhood and adolescence. This path of total emotional honesty, integrity and reality gradually makes room in your body and spirit for the natural good feelings to re-emerge from your Living Core and take over your daily mood. Especially when the work of emotional healing and liberation is married to the path of learning to love and believe in yourself unconditionally! All the positive changes Im describing evolve inside you with or without forgiveness occurring. So I always tell people never to choose or willfully pursue forgiveness. If it comes naturally- great! But you will be happy and at peace with or without it. Forgiveness should be like falling in love. If you choose it- it isnt real but an act of will that overrides your heart and genuine emotions. But if it occurs naturally and spontaneously in the process of staying true to your body and your feelings- wonderful! But you will be happy with or without it- because you will be overflowing with joy from within from the way you love yourself! Makes sense ? LOTS OF LOVE - BRIAN.
Posted on: Sat, 27 Dec 2014 12:11:38 +0000
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