OCTOBER 2, 2014 What to Do When You Dont Know What to Do LYSA TERKEURST Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 1 John 4:7-8 (NIV) Lysa TerKeurst I felt so fragile sitting in the parking lot of Target, too sad to stop crying. And although I had a list of things that really couldnt be put off another day, I was now entirely too tired to run errands or do much of anything. So there I sat. Alone. Moments earlier, a friend had called to tell me something shed seen posted about me online. It was harsh and hurtful. I tried to give myself a little pep talk, Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. Who on Gods green earth came up with that ridiculous saying? Its not true. I cried a little more. I pulled up the social media page my friend referenced, and there it was for all the world to see: Opinions about me flying through the Internet, intent on ripping me apart. As soon as I read the unkind words, daggers hit their mark deep inside my heart. It was only a handful of people but they debated me as if I were a product sitting on a shelf, void of a soul. A soul that feels and breathes and cares so very deeply about everything. Instantly, I wanted it all to stop. I looked up and saw people walking into Target and felt so very envious of them. They seemed peaceful, happy or at least neutral. I suddenly wished for a less risky life. Why do I display my heart to all the world typed up in pixelated letters? Words like, calling and disciple suddenly felt like burdens, not blessings. I looked back at my phone and reread the hurtful remarks posted online. Whats a girl to do when shes feeling desperate to fix something that cant be immediately fixed? Should I defend myself? But I dont want to sound defensive. Should I pray for others to defend me? But I dont want to pull others into this. Should I just stay quiet? But then what if my silence just feeds their case? Every response felt like the wrong response. What do you do ... when you dont know what to do? Maybe youve sat in a Target parking lot crying, too. The circumstances might have been different, but the hurt is the same ... that sliced-open feeling of being judged, misunderstood and wrongly exposed for the purpose of a good debate. I wish I had the perfect answer. I dont. These kinds of situations are messy, complicated and unable to fit in formulaic boxes. However, I have an imperfect solution that will get us pointed in the right direction: Do the next small thing, the right way, right away. In other words, find some small right thing to do that negates the negativity. Do that right thing, right away, to prove to yourself whats being said isnt ALL true. There might be some small tangles of truth in the hurtful thing being said. We can pray about that and do something later when the hurt isnt so fresh. But first things first. We have to stop the bleeding from the deepest wound. Do the next small thing, the right way, right away. The small thing I decided to do was see their comments coming from a place of hurt, not hate. Hurt people hurt people. Something caused hurt to stir up in their hearts. Maybe I even inadvertently added to it without meaning to. Regardless, having compassion for them eased my pain. I called my friend whod shared the hurtful comments and told her, I dont know what to do except be a picture of love in this situation. If I respond out of hurt, things will only get worse. Our key verse, 1 John 4:7-8, reminds us of the importance of showing love to each other, Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. So, I must let love guide me. Love can empower me to feel hurt without becoming a person consumed by that hurt ... I can feel offended, but I dont have to be offended. I can feel insecure, but I dont have to act insecure. I can feel angry, but I dont have to respond in anger. Thats the choice love makes. And please understand Im not all Pollyanna about this and able to walk it out perfectly. I have to give myself permission to be honest about my feelings. But I dont have to compound the hurt by reacting out of those feelings. I never did make it into Target that day. And there are still days I feel so very fragile and vulnerable. Maybe you do too? Lets allow love to take us by the hand and empower us in each and every situation where we dont know what to do. We can feel afraid, but we dont have to be afraid to do the next right thing, right away. Dear Lord, I want love to guide me today. Help me to do the next right thing right in front of me. In Jesus Name, Amen. Did you enjoy todays devotion? Click here to subscribe. TRUTH FOR TODAY: Romans 13:10, Love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law. (NIV)
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