Ok heres the rant blog of the week. Just read a status by a young single mother whose dream is to be married and give her family everything. I hope she didnt mean what her words conveyed. Why? We all want better for our kids than we had. I know I did. I didnt want my kids to spend their summers toiling in a field cutting and putting up hay for winter, didnt want them weeding and harvesting an acre and a half garden, didnt want them taking care of cattle and hogs five times their size like I did. But really, what harm did it do me? People have looked at me for years and assumed I have money or that I come from money. True, there are parts of my family that have money...but they earned it by working 7 days per week in a time when providing for the family was the fathers job and the wife didnt whine about it. Why? Because she got to be home caring for and rearing her children teaching values and morals and helping with homework. The kids werent left to their own devices to learn how to steal and break into places in which they had no right to be. So no, I dont come from money. I come from a family that works. Works hard. I have had times in my life where Ive worked some pretty masculine jobs...oil delivery, road construction even though I had a college degree. A degree I paid for myself. When my first marriage failed, I worked four part time jobs which I was able to work around my kids school schedules and because they had been taught proper behavior, a couple of my jobs allowed them to come with me. So yes, Ive had a Mercury mountaineer fully loaded, a mustang convertible, and my favorite and Infiniti G35 and an anniversary edition Harley. No one handed those to me. I earned them. Why? Because I was taught how to work to earn and that stealing or using people for their money is not only wrong but shameful, a disgrace. And welfare...not in a million years...if your body can work--if my body can work--work it will. At 16 my daughter wanted a car. Cool. I will get you a car but you will pay your portion of insurance, you will put gas in it, I will teach you to change the oil and general maintenance is on you as well. If you break it, you fix it. This child is now married with a child and two cars and money in the bank. Enough that she can be a stay at home mom and go back to school while her husband works. And no. He doesnt make six figures. Hes in the military, one of the lowest paying jobs out there. So, give your family everything they want? No. Teach them how to earn everything they want and to never give up. It will serve them much better in life. If a child can walk, s/he can understand simple directions and from that point on there are age appropriate household and eventually outside chores they can do. Sit on a sofa all day in front of Barney or watching mommy and daddy play COD...not cool. Age appropriate chores, reward for job well done at an age appropriate expectation works amazingly. Rant blog over.
Posted on: Wed, 15 Oct 2014 11:12:21 +0000
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