One of our members, Jesse James, wrote this great article: Let me reiterate: a person spending time with someone and growing to love them, whether that feeling is returned or not, is not wrong and that is not the problem. People fall in love, it’s natural and it’s great, but that doesn’t always mean it is unanimous for both parties. Having the expectation that because one person feels a certain way, the other owes them a part of their body to satisfy your personal needs—this is a problem worth discussing. Whether this situation is between a man and a woman, or any other possible paired variation of people, no one owes their body or their affections, their time, explanation or anything else for that matter. No one owes you a damn thing if that is not what they want for themselves. I know it’s hard to think beyond our own pain once the feeling of rejection kicks in, but lick your wounds while considering this: other people are not alive simply to serve us. That is not their purpose; they do not exist to fulfill our needs. The action deemed “friend zoning” is honestly a really hurtful device when used against anyone, and it is most commonly against women. ~LA elephantjournal/2014/08/now-boarding-for-the-friendzone-the-destination-that-doesnt-exist-jesse-james/
Posted on: Sun, 10 Aug 2014 22:53:44 +0000
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