One reason many people cannot feel as much oneness in their lives as they would like, is that they think is is supposed to be purely blissful. But there is much darkness, in the world and within ourselves. We cannot learn to feel oneness unless we are comfortable being at one with the darkness and pain and heartbreak of life as well. This does not mean we have to give into the darkness or let it overwhelm us. But if you always view it as other, as something outside of yourself, rather than a part of yourself that you can connect with, that feeling of oneness will be elusive. I have found that, when we can connect to both the love and the darkness at the same time, touching the darkness is much easier and less scary, because we are still reminded of the love in our hearts. The darkness does not sway us when there is strong love in our hearts. I call this state, when we are feeling both the darkness and the love within, richness--it is a rich inner emotional landscape. Seeking this state, rather than a more pure state of love, does not require me to pretend that the only time I have arrived at the proper, spiritual destination, is when Im purely blissful inside, a ball of pure love. Im a neurotic, messy, creatively-tense writer. It seems I was set angsty at the factory, and that state of pure bliss consistently eludes me. So I have needed to find a way to make life pleasant and loving and livable, even without the pure lovenlight many spiritual seekers crave. Accessing inner richness also allows me much more access to other people, because it does not require me put on social mask to hide the full richness (including the darkness) from others. Nor do I need to guard myself from *their* darkness (which Im very sensitive to, as it reminds me of my own). Because Im becoming well-practiced being with my own darkness, in love, Im becoming much more able to also be with the darkness in others. This allows me to be with them, while seeing beneath the social masks they and all of us put on to hide this part of ourselves. More intimacy and oneness is the result. And, intimacy-and-oneness hound that I am, that makes me happy. LovingtheUnlovableWithin
Posted on: Sat, 18 Oct 2014 17:22:21 +0000
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