Parents in Islam. A person came to the Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) and asked, “Who among people is the most deserving of my fine treatment?” He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) replied, “Your mother.” He then asked, “Who next?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) replied, “Your mother.” He asked again, “Who next?” He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said again, “Your mother.” He again asked, “Then who?” He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your father.” [Sahih Bukhari] Taking care of parents financially is one thing but exhibiting a civilized attitude is quite another. So what is the physical manifestation of “fine treatment”? Having a Dos and Don’ts list can be helpful. 1. Put your phone away in their presence. 2. Pay attention to what they are saying. 3. Accept their opinions. 4. Engage in their conversations. 5. Look at them with respect. 6. Always praise them. 7. Share good new with them. 8. Avoid sharing bad news with them. 9. Speak well of their friends and loved ones to them. 10. Keep in remembrance the good things they did. 11. If they repeat a story, listen as though its the first time they’re telling it. 12. Dont bring up painful memories from the past. 13. Avoid side conversations in their presence. 14. Don’t sit or make yourself comfortable before they do. 15. Dont belittle or criticize their opinions and thoughts. 16. Avoid cutting them off when they speak. 17. Respect their age. 18. Avoid hitting/disciplining their grandchildren around them. 19. Accept their advice and direction. 20. Give them the power of leadership when they are present. 21. Avoid raising your voice at them. 22. Avoid walking in front or ahead of them. 23. Avoid eating before them. 24. Avoid glaring at them. 25. Fill them with pride even when they dont think they deserve it. 26. Avoid putting your feet up in front of them or sitting with your back to them. 27. Dont speak ill of them especially to the point where others speak ill of them too. 28. Keep them in your prayers always. 29. Avoid seeming bored or tired of them in their presence. 30. Avoid laughing at their faults or mistakes. 31. Do a task before they ask you to. 32. Continuously visit them if you do not live with them. 33. Choose your words carefully when speaking with them. 34. Call them by names they like. 35. Make them your priority above everything. Parents are treasures and sooner than you think, that treasure will be buried. Appreciate your parents while you still can.
Posted on: Sat, 25 Oct 2014 08:16:28 +0000
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