Please do not respond to this status, just read and carry on because Im not interested in debates/drama on FB. With regards to the Marriage Isnt For You blog flying around, Ive been asked how I feel about it and until now, Ive said nothing. As usual, this blog has evoked a debate over religion. First of all, I dont think that the story had anything to do with religion and yet again, many people arent able to keep their eye on the ball because it appears that there is an endless need to prove others wrong or drill their own belief systems into everyone in the world! Or maybe its because after all, an argument/debate adds a little spice right? Wrong. Not everything has to be argued to death; which so many of you obviously disagree with. Therefore, please respect my wishes and dont respond. Im not seeking anyones approval, just stating my thoughts. So... whats my opinion that many have asked for? Marriage isnt for me. I tried this marriage thing, it didnt end well. He was abusive and I got out quickly with my young babies. The other reason why it didnt work is because I didnt love him enough and Ive since figured out that my marriage wasnt about me, it should have been about him. Thats my belief and it has taken me a long time to really understand this. I will only marry again should I meet a man that I truly love. Maybe youre thinking well of course you have to love... but, love means different things to all people. I have met only one man in my life that I would feel safe in saying that I truly love. I would have gladly given myself to him and I would have dedicated my life to him. He would have come first in my life and ensuring his happiness would have easily brought me all the happiness I could ever wish for. My idea of love is not selfish. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while love asks, “What can I give?” So in my opinion, this is how one must feel before saying I do and this type of love doesnt come along every day. If youre lucky, this kind of certainty will come around once in your lifetime. Why only once? Im a firm believer that once you truly and honestly love someone, youll always love them. True love isnt a choice. In 30+ years I still havent found that switch to flip just because he isnt mine or in my every day life. I still love him and always will. Some of my closest friends have told me to move on. I ask them, move on from what? What is it that you think I should be moving on from exactly? And just where would you like me to go?? Love is not something that anyone needs to move away from. My ship sailed away a very long time ago and without me on board, thats true and to be honest, I never really had a chance with him but regardless, Im satisfied with knowing what love is, what it means and how it feels. That was a wonderful gift that I was given all those years ago and for that Im thankful to God. Im a firm believer that He brings people into your life for a reason. I live a full life but Ill continue to walk alone and live my truth and not mold myself into what society feels that I should be and thats married. No disrespect intended to my closest friends and family who have witnessed me tread my own path for many years and have tirelessly tried to sway my thinking and beliefs without success. :) Be assured that Ill move on, if and when there is something worth moving on to. So from a single woman, my closing thoughts are simple really -Im not opposed to marriage, if its entered into for all the right reasons. No, marriage isnt for me and it never was. Marriage is for the one youre married to and always will be.
Posted on: Tue, 12 Nov 2013 22:19:32 +0000
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