Please read and advice if you can. I need the advice of mamas. Its a bit long but please be patient to read through. I have been married for four years now. I do not have issue with any of my Inlaw though we all live in the same city. but my problem is my co wife. she is older than me with 6 years and she is of the same year with my hubby though hubby is older than her with some months. there own marriage is about 9 years. her hubby is older than mine with two years. it started when we were about to get married. she asked my hubby to bring our traditional dress so she can inspect which my hubby refused. though my hubby wad living with them when he was schooling and working. she always insist my hubby contribute for food in the house then. hubby was working then and was taking care of his needs. they only gave him shelter. lets continue she always want me and hubby to seek permission or advice from them before we do anything which I disagree. the main problem started when I had my first daughter. she insisted that my hubby should come to her house so we can plan the child dedication. my hubby refused that he can take care of things himself. she was always looking for ways we will have misunderstanding. all of a sudden she stopped greeting my hubby. even when hubby greet her she will ask him how are you my hubby found it insulting and complained to her hubby but he said if my hubby is tired of greeting her, he should stay on his own. my hubby then stopped. he did not tell me about this until after 2 months. but insisted I continue greeting her. I continued until she started ignoring my greetings. I complained to MIL but she said I should continue that she is naturally malicious. at a time I got fed up with her attitude and I also stopped. hell was let loose she complained to everyone that I do not greet her. my MIL asked her why she stopped answering my greetings she said am supposed to come and ask her why she stopped greeting my hubby. my MIL now said I should go to her house and make peace. I got there and was almost beaten up by she and her hubby. because I told her that she is meant to greet hubby or even acknowledge his greeting. she also instructed her children to stop greeting us. as i speak she is not in speaking term with all the members of hubbys family. her husband supports her. though he is an elder in church and each time he is preaching he indirectly attacks my hubby and i. I have cut off from them completely. its been 2 years now but I feel disconnected from God each time I pray because I feel am keeping malice. we attend the same church so we see everytime. I have pleaded with hubby lets change parish he refused that he cannot run away because of them. I now pleaded ok let atleast start greeting her again atleast to clear my conscience but hubby forbids me from doing that. and called me a betrayer to him. am confused. do you think I am too forward or should I just mind myself. my greeting is just for formality. I do not want to get close to her. please what do I do.
Posted on: Wed, 24 Dec 2014 19:00:01 +0000
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