Question: What should I do in a situation where I loaned money to someone and they havent paid me back in over 4 years? (see below) Hi Robin How should I perceive this issue? I loaned a fairly large amount of money to a friend 4 years ago with the promise of being repaid as soon as he sold a car he had. He didnt sell the car during the summer (in MN) so he knew it would not sell in the winter. I finally asked him to please start repaying me a year later.Then I moved to AZ. He has not contacted me at all. Naturally I am sad that he has not and we have not spoken or written since...I gave it in good faith, and glad to be of service. What wisdom do you have for me? Answer from Robin D. Duncan Hi Colleen, Thank you for your question. Whenever you have a question, such as this, the first thing to do is to turn inward, and ask Holy Spirit for what to do, what to say, and how to respond to ensure a peaceful outcome for everyone involved. The answer you get will likely be different for you, depending on the specific situation you are in. I am not here to advise you, yet I can share a similar situation that Terry and I had, and what we were guided to do. Remember that the answer you get from Holy Spirit, maybe quite different for you. Recently, we were owed $4,500 from a deposit we had made, and several months went by (past the legal due date) with no repayment. We turned to Holy Spirit and asked what we should do. We were guided to send certified letters to the person who owed the money, to ensure they had sufficient information to do the right thing, however, after repeated attempts, there was still no response. We went back to Holy Spirit and said, Whats next? We were reminded that in A Course in Miracles, it says to always ask yourself (in any situation), What is this for? As we asked ourselves this question, we felt that the situation being presented, was to try to convince us that we are unloved, disrespected, and that other people have the power to withhold from us. As we realized the under tow of what was going on, we decided that we did not want to engage or reinforce that position. We were thinking about going to small claims court, but decided it would be more peaceful to forgive him instead, and so we did. We said a prayer of forgiveness and release, and asked Holy Spirit to heal our mind and hearts about this person, and about the entire experience. We asked for a miracle to replace our grievance, and asked for peace for all of us. This situation is quite recent, so we havent seen the full unfoldment yet, however, we already know we made the right choice in advancing our peace. No matter what you do on the physical level, forgiveness is always the key to happiness on the spiritual level. That means, Love him no matter what happens. Another guideline we chose for ourselves, personally, is that instead of loaning money in the future, we prefer to gift it instead. If someone wants to borrow money, and we feel peaceful in giving the money, we do it. If we dont feel peaceful, we dont. Peace is always the barometer. We decided that it was more fun to tithe and give money away, than to create situations of debt, burden, and obligation for others. (This is a personal decision, and not a judgment on whether loaning money is good or bad). At some point, Holy Spirit may guide us to loan money, and we are open to that. Perhaps the person who borrows the money is best served and grows more, by learning how to pay the money back. Divine Love will always give you the perfect answer for your situation. I am reminded of a time when a client of mine had invested all of her retirement funds in an Internet scheme (unknowingly), and she was so angry because she had lost all of it, plus she was going to have to go back to work in her late 60s. We worked together on releasing her anger and frustration, and the next morning, the person who had her money contacted her to tell her they were going to mail back her investment, in full. There is always a miracle behind the grievance. I thank God for guiding your steps on what to do next. I am willing to see this person that owes you money, as the innocent, loving, respectful, Holy Light of God that he is. We dedicate this entire situation to the truth, where peace is inevitable. Amen Perhaps, you can arrange payments that are affordable for him, if or when he is open to that. Whatever you do, ask first, and trust the information you are getting with your whole heart. Continue to see this person as the innocent, Holy Child of God that he is. Know that God is your Source and Supply, and there is no one, or nothing, that can take this from you, or detract from your abundance. In God, we are forever invulnerable. Only the Truth is TRUE! In love, Robin JOIN OUR FREE Miracles in Abundance 33-Day Series anytime at: MiraclesinAbundance - You will receive your DAY 1 (of 33) emails 24-48 hours after registration.
Posted on: Sat, 13 Dec 2014 16:10:16 +0000
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