REAL MEN. Chapter 1.The Muslim and His Rabb The Believing Man is Alert in faith and awareness in fearing Allah He is Obedient to the commands of his Rabb He is a true slave of Allah He Worships Allah He regularly performs the duties and good deeds required by Islam He accepts the will and decree of Allah He Regularly Prays Five Times a Day He Attends the Jamaah (Congregational) Prayer He Attends Eid Prayers He Prays Sunnah and Nafil Prayers He Performs His Prayers Properly He Pays Zakah on His Wealth He Fasts During the Day and Prays at Night in Ramadhan He Observes Nafil Fasts He Goes on Hajj to the Sacred House of Allah He Goes for Umrah He has a sense of responsibility for those under his authority He Feels a Sense of Responsibility for the Members of His Family He Does Not Sit Alone With a Stranger Woman He lowers his gaze He Avoids Mixing Freely With Women He Does Not Shake Hands With a Non-Mahram Woman He Does Not Travel With Non-Mahram He Turns to Allah in Repentance His Main Concern is the Pleasure of Allah He Understands the True Meaning of Being a Servant of Allah He Works to Support the Religion of Allah He is Distinguished by His Islamic Character and True Religion His Loyalty is to Allah Alone He Enjoins What is Good and Forbids What is Evil He Often Reads the Quran Chapter 2: The Muslim Man and His Own Self 1-His Body Moderation in food and drink He exercises regularly His body and clothes are clean He Takes Care of his Mouth and Teeth He Takes Care of His Hair He Takes Care of Good Appearance He Does Not Go to Extremes or show off 2- His Mind He Takes Care of His Mind by Pursuing Knowledge until death as knowledge is an obligation A Muslim Man needs to know basics regarding deen is Quran, Hadith, Seerah, Islamic History, Fiqh A Muslim Achieves wisdom in the Field of Knowledge In General as long as Shariah approves such knowledge. The Muslim Man should be proficient in his specialty The Muslim Man exposes himself to information about other fields The Muslim Man is proficient in a foreign language He is not Superstitious He Never Stops Reading and Studying 3-The Muslim Mans Soul The Muslim Man polishes his soul through worship He keeps company with righteous people and joins religious gatherings He frequently repeats duas and supplications described in Quran & Ahadith Chapter 3: The Muslim and His Parents He Treats them with kindness and respect (birr) He recognizes their status and knows his duties towards them He is kind and respectful towards them even if they are not Muslims He is extremely reluctant to disobey them His mother comes first, then his father He treats his parents friends well He shows his kindness and humility towards his parents by not using words of contempt nor repelling them Chapter 4: The Muslim and His Wife He Knows Importance of Marriage in Islam He follows the guidance of Islam in his married life He Chooses a Good Wife He commands her with due consideration and gives her Respect He Treats Her Family with Kindness and Respect He understands his wife and respects her feelings He helps her to make up for her failings and weaknesses He knows how to strike a balance between pleasing his wife and treating his mother with due kindness and respect He Endears Himself to his Wife and is Keen to Please Her He Does not Disclose Her Secrets He Stands by Her and Offers Her Advice He Encourages Her to Spend and Give Charity for the Sake of Allah He Helps Her to Obey Allah (subhanawatala.) He Fills Her Heart with Joy He Makes Himself handsome for her He is Cheerful and Grateful when he Meets her He Shares Her Joys and Sorrows He Does not Look at Other Women He Does not Describe Other Men to Her He Tries to Create an Atmosphere of Peace and Tranquility for Her He is Tolerant and Forgiving He is Strong in Character and Wise He is One of the Most Successful Husband He does not divorces without a valid reason Chapter 5: The Muslim and His Children He understands his great responsibility towards his children and Teaches them Islam He uses the best methods in bringing them up such as Commanding,loving ,Compassionate,Understaning their psychology , Attitude and also Correcting and Guiding them. He demonstrates His Love and Affection for Them He spends on them, willingly and generously He does not discriminate between sons and daughters in his affection and spending He Does not Pray Against his Children He is alert to everything that may have an influence on them He equally treats all his children He instills good behavior and Attitudes in them Chapter 6: The Muslim and His Sons and Daughters-in-Law A His Daughter-in-Law has Islamic values,high character and His Attitude Towards her Daughter-in-Law is that He treats her as her own daughter,as a family member, He Knows how to Make a Good Choice in Selecting a Daughter-in-Law commitment to Islam, and to be of a good and balanced character He Knows His Place treats his daughter-in-law properly and fairly in all circumstances and at all times,matters may run their natural, peaceful course unaffected by misguided whims and desires and governed instead by religion, reason and wisdom He Gives Advice but Does not Interfere in Their Private Life He Respects Her and Treats Her Well He is Wise and Fair in his Judgement of his Daughter- in-Law B His Son-in-Law His Attitude Towards his Son-in-Law He Knows How to Make a Good Choice in Selecting a Son-in-Law religious commitment and character you are pleased He Respects and Honours Him He Helps her Daughter to be a Good Wife to her Husband He is Fair, and is Never Biased in Favor of Her Daughter He Deals with Problems Wisely Chapter 7: The Muslim Man and His Relatives (Arham) He knows Islamic view of kinship ties The Muslim Man upholds the ties of kinship according to the teachings of Islam He maintains the ties of kinship even if his relatives are not Muslim He fully understands the meaning of upholding the ties of kinship He maintains the ties of kinship even if his relatives fail to do so Chapter 8: The Muslim and His Neighbors The Muslim Man is Kind and Friendly Towards Her neighbors He is the best of people in his dealings with his neighbors He Adhers the Islamic teachings concerning good treatment of neighbors The true Muslim Man is tolerant towards his neighbor He likes for his neighbor what he likes for himself He Knows Misery that befalls humanity because of the lack of true Islamic morals and manners The Muslim Man treats his neighbor in the best way he can His generosity is directed towards both Muslim and non-Muslim neighbors He starts with the neighbor whose home is closest to his own The true Muslim Man is the best neighbor He Knows bad neighbor is a person who is deprived of the blessing of faith He Knows bad neighbor is a person whose good deeds are not accepted He Knows a true Muslim is careful to avoid falling into sin where his neighbor is concerned His good treatment of his neighbor is not lacking and is Enough. He puts up with his neighbors mistakes and bad treatment He does not give tit-for-tat He knows his neighbors rights over him Chapter 9: The Muslim Man and His Friends and Brothers in Islam He loves His Friends and Brothers for the sake of Allah He Knows the great status of two who love one another for the sake of Allah He Knows he effect of love for the sake of Allah on the life of the Muslims is essential for unity He does Not Forsake or Abandon His Brother He is tolerant and forgiving towards them He meets them with a smiling face He is sincere towards them He has a natural inclination towards kindness and faithfulness He is kind to his brothers He does not Gossip About Them He Avoids Arguing with them, Making Hurtful Jokes and Breaking Promises He is Generous and Honours His Brothers and prefers over himself He prays for his Brothers in Their Absence Chapter 10: The Muslim Man and His Community/Society He Has a Good Attitude Towards Others and Treats Them Well He is truthful & avoids giving false statements He is Concerned About the Affairs of the Muslims He Strives to Reconcile Between Muslim Men He Repays Favours and is Grateful for Them He does not cheat, deceive or stab in the back He is not envious He is sincere & gives sincere advice He keeps his promises He has a good attitude towards others and treats them well He is characterized by shyness (Haya) He is gentle towards people He is compassionate and merciful He is tolerant ,forgiving and generous He is easy-going in his business dealings He is of cheerful countenance He has a sense of humor He is patient He avoids cursing and foul language He does not falsely accuse anyone of fisq or kufr He is modest and discreet He does not interfere in that which does not concern him He refrains from backbiting and slandering the Honour of Others and Seeking Out Their Faults He avoids giving false statements He avoids suspicion He keeps secrets He does not converse privately with another person when there is a third person present He is not arrogant or proud He is humble and modest He does not make fun of anyone He respects elders and distinguished people He mixes with people of noble character He strives for peoples benefit and seeks to protect them from harm He strives to reconcile between Muslims He calls people to the truth He enjoins what is good and forbids what is evil He is wise and eloquent in his dawah He is not a hypocrite He does not show off or boast He is Moderate with Regard to Her Clothing and Appearance He is straightforward and consistent in his adherence to the truth He repays favors and is grateful for them He mixes with people and puts up with their insults He tries to make people happy He guides others to righteous deeds He is easy on people, not hard and Does Not Bear Grudges He is fair in his judgment of people He does not oppress or mistreat others He loves noble things and always aims high His speech is not exaggerated or affected He does not rejoice in the misfortunes of others He is generous He does not remind the beneficiaries of his charity He is hospitable He prefers others to himself He helps to alleviate the burden of the debtor He is proud and does not beg He is friendly and likeable He checks his customs and habits against Islamic standards He follows Islamic manners in the way he eats and drinks He greets with Islamic greeting i.e salam He does not enter a house other than his own without permission He does not look into other peoples houses He sits wherever he finds room in a gathering He avoids yawning in a gathering as much as he can He follows the Islamic etiquette when he sneezes He does not imitate women He Does Not Seek the Divorce of Another Man so that he May Take His Place He visits the sick He attends funerals
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