Relationship=Romace=Love=? When contemplating the complexities of love, especially when everyone holds such strong feelings for it, I find it compelling to elaborate on my own emotional experiences with it. By painting my thoughts on the public canvas of life, while it is always dangerous to define broad strokes with a pencil, I do to some degree or another consider my writings to evoke with such emotion in regards to the effects of love. To believe in love’s higher dimensional development, cognitively one must also accept the internal (discourse) dialog’s relentless state to understand this indescribable feeling, a divinity (supernatural power) of a paradoxical association to one’s relationships. Honeymoon In the beginning of a romantic relationship (coined the honeymoon stage) you will be initially consumed by the appearance, intimacy, attention of your Baby, Honey, Sweetie, easily taking the complacent, desirable path of comfort that’s conveniently warn with familiarity to our own ideal fantasy. Caution This is also cautious stage where both are on their best behavior while discovering the like and dislikes during this whimsically euphoric time. Do little thing matter? If youve find yourself breaking up, needing some independence in this first year, becoming less impulsive, then it’s time to start questioning your relationships path. Disagreements can become more evident and the little things may start to matter turning into a social hour discussion with friends to seek their opinion or confirmation to your concerns. Friends or friends Friends might also see their (un) bias influence of their opinion recapturing more of your time they lost during your temporary leave of romance. While the psychological effects vary from one person to another during this stag, our tendencies are very similar and relatively easy to overlook if already confused in our own deep, defensive obstructions. Otherwise, relationships will rely upon and confide in outside forces to reassure rather than search inside forces that leverage their own true beliefs. Who? Me. You write, sometimes text entire pages In reply disagreement, anger or frustration wanting to get your point across, yet you never send it. Perhaps at some point you realize you got your point across but to the person that really needed to hear it, yourself! Surrendering, more effort than it’s worth, releases you from your responsibility of having to deal with those dusted off battle plans that your negative thinking had won over and over. Drama Upstaging in a relationship is a ticket to the drama zone, and the break-up, make-up engine could be reving up, stressing out the relationship quickly, clogging up the motor that can end up blowing the manifold. This is unhealthy! Drama has nothing to do with the relationship and has much to do with a struggle within yourself to validate, test your character on the stage, an inner self-diversion to an external dispersion. Not me The complacent self deception is the easy road of acceptance, manipulating our perceptive, psychologically and successfully coercing us into a controlled (miss)perceptions, succumbing to other’s (friends) out-side interest. To some degree or another we are all guilty, usually with plenty of excuses, rationalizations and justifications for doing what we conveniently hide under the rug. Validation Being right should not be the result in proving our love wrong while cahooting with friends to seek validation to our indecision (You scratch my indecisive back and I’ll scratch your assumptive back for confirmation.) The key to this subtle manipulation is to convince you that its in your best interest to ignore your better judgment, your inner voice of prudence, and willingly surrender your personal inner wisdom to false externals ( friends), while rejecting your genuine inner authority. Contempt within Despite our egoist admiration (face book), it is especially frightening to venture outside the comfortable confines and safety of our self-prescribed sanctuary. While on the surface this may seem painfully obvious, very often we do not practice what we perceive and even less often do we perceive without self deceiving, without externally and internally self-inflicted distortions and blurring. This is the art of mind control and false-reality creation, to induce you to willingly create an alternatively-perceived reality. And for the most part, we do this in response to manipulated external stimuli which is often in direct conflict with our true inner knowing. The most familiar weapon in the world used repeatedly against us is ourselves (breeds contempt). False confirmation External support is not a competition to justify our internal faults but a false win placing blame to avoid guilt for evacuating our responsibilities to the unconditional love equation. Unfortunately, very few of us will admit this, thereby keeping us locked in our own vicious reliance of denial and dependence on third-party opinions (friends, bias to losing you) psychological self deceptions. Ego shmego:/ While deeply dependent upon and immersed within someone else’s version of your relationship, particularly when supporting the spin within your self-induced realities, you find after a period of time for it to be nearly impossible to return to your prior state of true love. Our ego simply refuses to recognize that we are wrong while mentally consumed with justifying our action which will ultimately result in a guilt-stricken spirit. The longer the battle for control rages against our partner, the more consumed the ego becomes in winning the war that only exists within and can never be won unless reconciling the misguided love with truth. Im a expert To some degree or another, we are all self-prescribed engineers in designing our own psychological damage control. We are experts in blame, involvement and personal-responsibility in avoidance at all costs because the real truth is a consequence that would destroy our fictitious reality. (House of cards)-Steven Previch Love? The more I try to encompass love’s world, the greater the likelihood that I’m wrong, if for no other reason than to frame love, most definitely closes my mind to its boundless possibilities. Looking for love shouldn’t be about finding your soul mate. As we know, that is usually close to impossible. It is much smarter to view the search for love as an attempt to maximize your total lifetime romantic happiness over the rest of your life til you find your soul mate (Hmmmmm) ..
Posted on: Thu, 07 Aug 2014 18:34:13 +0000
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