Relationships and stress for the unmarried. Here is some advice for young people. The worst part of being single (supposedly…because few young people are single in reality…most are actually polygamous…have more than one partner…just that not committed to any.) is the trouble of having to put up with the stress of having a person in your life who is not yet committed to the relationship…one who can do whatever they want with their life without regard to the emotional pain and stress their actions may cause you… one who comes begging…and then later once they have you…they want to play the game without regard to the rules of the game… and who will from time to throw your heart on the ground and even step on it. From time, you will discover there are others who he/she wants. He/she seems undecided yet you feel you want to settle and have given up on others for him/her. This back and forth pushing of things gets to that time when you feel stressed and totally depressed. Some advice for you… In a relationship (where you are not yet married or still dating) the one who cares the least enjoys the most. You who think you should be the one to push, to beg, to understand, to compromise all the time… will never enjoy it. It’s a power struggle. Power is sweet…to know that you have power of some sort is such a good feeling… so if you let the other person have a lot of power without using your value to set your power structure as well…you will always struggle and be stressed. Achieving that balance …of loving someone but having the ability to set boundaries over what they can do and not do…is the magic of enjoying a relationship. People who love you should be able to value you and respect you, your family and your education (n case you are still in school). If someone is taking you through circles, he/she is giving you what we call early warning signals of what is to happen in future. So remember that in this world, you are the most important person to yourself. Nobody should be more important to you than yourself. You should know that you have inbuilt value and that is the reason as to why that someone came to you in the first place. The reason you will suffer more is to put the other person first as being more important and yourself as less valuable. So you want to beg and let him ride over you. If you are in a relationship where you have to always be the one to beg, to understand, to push, please run for dear life. They are going to get your heart, pluck it out every day of your life and pull it on the thorn of living. At least nature has prepared someone for everybody. So nobody should seem indispensable. If you know your value, then set the price, those who see it will pay however high it is. Otherwise, someone out there is very willing to break your heart to pieces, and even break those pieces even more as long as you forget your value. Point---Don’t forget your value. If some came…chances are high someone else is gonna come around and the good news is that nobody can take your value away unless you let them take it. So always carry that head high up and know you are valuable and nobody can take even an inch of who you are. What one person saw in you; just know a million others will see. So if anyone is joking around with your life, kick the bastard out of your life unless they reform. If anyone thinks they are too important for you, tell them safe journey. Sometimes it’s on their journey out that they see the real beauty and value of where they have been…and it may give them thoughts about their conduct. Thanks for reading this hell of a post:) There you go
Posted on: Wed, 29 Oct 2014 21:03:39 +0000
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