Request for the Narc Decoder: Relevant background. ExN and I share 70/30 type visitation with me being primary and joint decision-making with me having final if we cant agree. After harassing texts, emails, and calls I had my attorney request a stipulation that our communication be limited to only email and only about our children. They agreed to the stipulation, why wouldnt he? He doesnt do anything wrong, right? Communication Stipulation is entered. Fast forward a year later. I still get harassing emails, sporadic texts, and now phone calls if there is an issue he deems to be an emergency regarding one of our children. We recently were appointed a Parenting Coordinator, which I love having one by the way, way overdue. Still occasional harassing emails (which PC puts a stop to right away), ignores emails he just doesnt want to answer and then of course, turns around and says that Im not communicating with him about HIS children and just making decisions without his input. Even though I have final I still attempt to include him on everything regarding our children, its the best thing for them. Ive learned to and am still learning to disengage from his crazy and am getting better at it everyday. What a great feeling. Ive read about Our Family Wizard and want to use it. I emailed him about it, telling him what it is, provided the link, stated I would communicate only through there going forward and if he refused to use it I would ignore subsequent emails and request our PC make the recommendation for us to use the website. He sent the response below (which I ignored). I then requested our PC recommend we communicate via Our Family Wizard going forward and set forth the reasons why. Anyways, heres the response and I thought it might be a fun Narc Decoder moment (they really do all sound the same!): Me, I am not under any obligation from you or the court to join a website to communicate with you about the children. I will not be signing up for some website service to monitor conversations and keep logs of such. I am not going to engage in a discussion with you on this ridiculous topic but I will, however, point out that you do not get to make demands that I sign up for websites and then threaten me with consequences if I dont. We have a communication stipulation that clearly states we communicate via email. Not this website you are demanding I sign up for. This is yet another example of your inability to effectively co-parent. Email is the preferred method of communication and that is what I will use. If you choose to ignore my emails then that is ultimately your decision to go against court orders we have in place regarding communication. Stop demanding I do certain things and threatening me if I dont do them. Go ahead and ask [Parenting Coordinator] to make me use this website service you have chosen out of thin air and if she does recommend it, I will file an objection. No judge is going to make me use a website service to communicate with you. Especially when we have a communication stipulation as part of our court record. I wont discuss this any further and I will continue to email you when necessary per our communication stipulation. ExN PS, my original email to him was a total of seven, short simple sentences.
Posted on: Thu, 29 May 2014 23:17:47 +0000