“SPENDING QUALITY TIME TOGETHER” A lot of guys feel they are already spending so much time with their partners, I very much understand. Some time ago a brother was narrating his experience to me, in his words he was saying “we eat together most of the day, watch movies together on weekends, I walk her home from work every Wednesdays and Fridays, Sundays we both are in church sitting side by side, I follow her religiously to the market like a lost lamb, etc. but am confuse about the fact that every now and then she complains that we don’t spend any more quality time together, how can she be saying stuff like that?, we already have quality time, we do almost everything together, if she’s asking for more that means we’d practically be living in each other’s pockets” . (hahahahahaaha haha, please excuse my laughter). I believe somebody out there needs to hear this; “it is not about the lengthy amount of time you spend together, it’s what you do with the smallest amount of dedicated ‘together- time’ that matters”. Quality time with a lover is as simple as connecting with one another and making sure you are both still involved in each other’s lives. It is giving that special person your undivided and uninterrupted attention, talking about each other’s wants, dreams, ambitions, challenges and interests. When she says “we are no longer spending quality time together”, she is not implying that you take her on a romantic getaway trip to Casablanca, I mean, that would be so cool but of what use it is if you’ll go there and get your eyes stuck on the television watching an Arsenal and Chelsea football game?, she isn’t talking about sitting in together to watch the latest season of Gossip Girl, attend a Friday night party, hangout at a park, or making her a delicious breakfast in bed. She’s simply saying she can’t remember the last time you two were gazing deep into each other’s eyes and talking about everything. The few times you show any interest about asking how her day went, it was either your eyes where stuck on the TV, your hands where busy typing on the phone, or your attention was firmly on your computer. And even after you’ve tried to ask that’s usually where it ends, “how was your day?” fine! You hardly ever notice or compliment the new way she packs her hair, you didn’t ask how she managed to find a seat in the bus, you don’t care to ask whether or not she was beaten by the rain, if she needs a new cardigan to help deal with the cold. Anyways, why would you ask; when all of that matters nothing to you. For women, quality time is the fire that drives their passion, it is their most special love language. They do not always want you to talk all the time, NO, just be there to listen with an undivided attention, laugh at their dry jokes no matter how boring, smile when she’s taking 5hours to narrate how she was arguing with mama Nkechi, tease her about the romantic smell of her fart, and interrupt her story to remind her of how much she will be better at what she does. That is the quality time she seeks. Make every moment count!
Posted on: Sat, 23 Aug 2014 11:12:46 +0000
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