Safe Friends I am good looking, intelligent and talented. I am not arrogant just confident in who I am and know that I am a wonderful person with a lot to offer. In this day and age, those exact qualities make me persona non-grata as people these days do not want someone they have to respect. They want someone who they can feel better than. Truth is, a lot of people really have no confidence and so they compensate for their lack of confidence with a superiority complex. They prefer to stand next to those who are shorter than, less attractive than, less educated than they are in order to make themselves visible, in order to stand out and be noticed. When people stand next to me, they are brought face to face with their perceived deficiencies. In some degree, everybody is a participant in slavery as each of us seeks someone that makes us feel important by comparison. Someone that makes us feel like a master of something, better than someone. I have examined the inner circles within my own community and I notice that the chicks tend to gravitate towards overweight women when they are searching for friendship and the men, they tend to align themselves with men who they perceive to be shorter or less intelligent then they are. The happy meeting of equals is in fact an idealistic illusion that sounds good in theory but is hardly ever practiced consistently. People stand next to those that make them feel less invisible. Hypothetically, I know if I was overweight, I would probably stand next to someone who I believed to be slightly heavier than me in order to make myself appear slim as every big person’s greatest accessory is an even bigger person on their arm. Because I am slim, good looking and intelligent, I often find myself tacitly ousted and ostracized by these inner circles, alienated from their company constantly. I have gotten to the point where I now only want to hang out with those who are attractive in order to avoid the insecurity dance that tends to come along with associating with those who are physically, interpersonally and intellectually inferior. It may sound like I am being exclusive and a tad bit arrogant but there is a reverse discrimination that happens when you associate with those that are not on your level. They either exclude you from their inner circle of friends or punish you with their insecurity and low self-esteem, always making you feel as though you owe them an apology for being your most fabulous self. I don’t owe anyone anything let alone an apology for being the best self I can possibly be. My beauty, my talents, my intelligence are blessings and gifts that I appreciate and reserve for those who embrace them and cherish their existence. Personally, I do not have time to entertain anyone’s “beauty bias” nor do I want to deal with people that do not like who they are and project their insecurities on to me. I do realize that people are superficial and look for “safe friends”, people who do not pose a threat to them. And while on some level I understand the logic behind this, I still do not condone the ostracism that takes place based on someone’s perception of another’s looks, intelligence and talent. But this is the hand we are forced to play and I must protect myself, shield my hand and play by the rules that life has drafted in this game of stacked decks and twisted philosophies. So while u look for your crew of “safe friends” and continue to build your circle of people that make you look good, I will be doing the same. Call me superficial; call me whatever you want but I am looking for a stable of dimes with beautiful bodies and genius minds. So move aside you’re blocking my view! I’ve got work to do…… luisspeaks.wordpress/2013/11/19/safe-friends/
Posted on: Mon, 29 Dec 2014 00:21:49 +0000
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