Seeking practical advice: I recently successfully noticed me be angered by my family (a fairly large source of frustration and anger in my life; Im probably not alone in that! :) ) and justifying my anger by exhibiting the same traits I was angry at them for (e.g. they tend to demand that those around them adjust to suit their many preferences and obsessions; but by being angry by telling myself they always need things exactly their way! made me realize that I was doing exactly the same thing they were. This seems like a successful use of Marcus 4th point in his 9 ways to deal with anger (philosophy-of-cbt/2013/02/25/marcus-aurelius-on-overcoming-anger-and-developing-empathy/). However, after this pretty useful insight, Ive found that its not sticking emotionally; when I try to reason myself further into developing more empathy for them, I often still wind up getting frustrated and listing what I perceive as their flaws, while also stating to myself that although I made the same mistake as them, I dont carry it out to the magnitude they do and therefore dont affect others much with it. Id like to take advantage of this insight into my thought process, but little is really dissipating the anger. Any tips on how to build upon this to develop more felt empathy?
Posted on: Wed, 08 Oct 2014 00:39:09 +0000
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