Shared from a private group I am in for mothers of recovering addict children. It really hit a nerve. Feelings I have felt a million times in the past 7 years. Maybe, just hopefully, this will help someone/anyone that reads it. It can apply to nearly everyone, so take a minute to read it and let it sink in... Profound just how petty arguing, disagreeing and fighting really is!!! Here goes: Sometimes we fight and say things we dont mean. But with all fights, sometimes what we are fighting about isnt as important as what we are fighting for. All of us are more than tired, we are wounded and deep pain and with all wounds sometimes we pick at the fresh scabs over the wound. Sometimes those scabs bleed into our daily lives. The words of anger that flow from our wound arent what we are truly angry over. How many times have I said hurtful and angry things to my husband over something that didnt matter, when I was really afraid because my son didnt return my 23rd call of the evening? How many times have I been upset when my daughter didnt clean the kitchen good enough when I was actually upset because my son stole $20.00 from my purse? How many times have I yelled at our poor dog because of fear for my son? I cant tell you the number of times I have been mean, petty, angry, or bitter to my family. I cant tell you the number of times I have ignored, forgotten, or been insensitive to my family. I cant tell you the number of times I cried, yelled, and screamed at my family through the dark days of my sons active addiction. Maybe some of you have too. So when someone posts something that makes you upset or you feel the need to get something off your chest please do the following before responding or posting. Ask yourself the following: Have I ever been angry and hurtful to anyone? Have I ever said something I regretted? Have I ever wrote something that was misconstrued? Am I without fault that I have the right to pass judgment upon others? Or are you really just a wounded mom. If this is the case, skip the post that offends, or ask the person to clarify their post, just maybe it didnt come across on the page as it did in their head or ask them if they are having a bad day or even better respond with hugs. But always remember this, only a sister really understands another sister, and when it comes to addiction all of us are sisters of circumstance, of the heart and all we have is each other. I cant believe I am smiling through the tears as I write this...
Posted on: Fri, 01 Nov 2013 07:39:18 +0000
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