So, I am not perfect at this. Not by a long shot. But I want to share something Ive discovered in my life - in my friendships - that has gotten me far, and will hopefully take me even farther. . . I try not to take the actions and words of others personally. Most of what anyone says or does has nothing to do with me. When I take offense, it is only because I am allowing myself to feel diminished by another persons opinion. Like I am bad or wrong somehow. I strive to never let another person have that kind of power over me. . . That said, I will admit. . . There have been times I have Unsubscribed (not Unfriended) from a friends feed because, although I tried - so hard - to not take some of their posts personally, I have failed! Some topics just get under my skin. But I admit that the failure lies in my own strength. I recognize that these friends are just. . . Facebooking. They are not actively trying to hurt me. And because I know them in person, I know that Facebook only reflects about. . . Oh, I dont know. . . %5-%15 of their actual reality? I dunno. Im not a numbers person. . . Or. . . Lets say someone did try to hurt me on purpose. I still shouldnt take it personally. People lash out when they feel hurt, insecure, tired, hangry. . . Sometimes people are dealing with difficult situations in their lives and they feel the need to lash out. Whatever. Their feelings, their anger, their harsh actions or words. . . They are still not about me. I promise you, though my words may sometimes be big, or sharp, or hot. . . They are not about you. And if you and I ever have a problem, I will always go out of my way to PM you to work it out. Because we are friends. And, in my opinion, that is what friends do. If you feel like these are terms you can agree to, you have my deep respect and continued friendship. If you decide to delete me because you cannot agree to these terms. . . I wont take it personally.
Posted on: Mon, 13 Oct 2014 22:59:20 +0000
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