So many times we hear that we cannot give in to negative thinking. While it is true that persistent negative thoughts will more than likely create things in our life that we don’t want, it is also important to understand the true role of negative thoughts. If we don’t come to terms with this in some capacity, it will take a lot longer to get over things. Firstly, negative thoughts are warnings and insights into things we either need, don’t like, or probably need to change. They can be first evident in a subtle feeling, that something just doesn’t sit right with you. Or it can be more obvious, where you know that you don’t like the situation. Your negative thoughts are not your enemy. They are a warning system. Secondly, you are not being negative if you come across a person that you don’t like. Contrary to much new age thinking, you don’t have to like everyone. You can see them for the light that they are, but that doesn’t mean you have to interact with troublesome people if they are not a part of your path. So it is perfectly ok to sidestep these beings, wish them well and to get on with your life and interact with those that uplift you. If you have someone in your life that has hurt you, even destroyed you and you are having problems with releasing it, it may be because you haven’t allowed the negative emotions to arise. If you can get to the point where you can declare your true negative feelings to yourself out loud, and that you are ok with it, it can be very cathartic. You must be ok with how you feel. Self acceptance is part of letting go. At that moment, at the point of admission, the negative feelings started to subside and will often never arise again. Without that, with just trying to forgive and wondering why it hasn’t worked, you can often end up going around in circles and using up valuable life force and precious years overcoming things instead of enjoying your life. I’m not saying it will work for everyone, but it is yet another tool that may work for you. We are all complex beings us humans, beautiful in our imperfections, fierce in our loyalties and ridiculous in some of the ways we hang onto things. You are not less spiritual if you can’t let something go, but you do need to find the right tools. Don’t overlook the power of your negative emotions to help you as a beacon to overcoming the most difficult situations. You need to grieve about certain things, and that’s ok. If someone comes into your space, whether in person or on cyberspace, and is being negative about something, don’t shut them down. It is a subconscious request for help. It is not necessarily ‘victim mentality’. It is all well and good to take responsibility for our lives, but when people are finding it hard then they need our help. They don’t need to hear ‘suck it up princess’,’ it’s your ego get rid of it’, ‘get over it’ or ‘you’re playing the victim’ and other terms I find completely abhorrent and devoid of any compassion. They hand you a ladder with no rungs on it and expect you to get from the depths of despair to joy in one fowl swoop. It ain’t gonna happen. So next time you feel bad about feeling bad, don’t feel bad. It’s normal, accept it and then you can release it. Remember there is no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ in anything really. It’s all in the way we choose to perceive things. Love and light.
Posted on: Sun, 31 Aug 2014 12:26:58 +0000
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