So true..great information.I try not to post alot of negative things.. but when I read this I felt it worth sharing.There are a few close friends (ones I am so thankful for) who know that I spent a few years dealing with n losing myself due to this..and it was hard as hell to recover..and its still a daily battle because a narresessits abuse is brutal. especially the emotional/mental..(gaslighting is hell. And they project/switch roles.) They are like a paddle ball game.. pull you in.. n smack you back out. Feels like a punch to the gut that knocks your breath out then just when u reach the end of the rubber band and can take a breath. They pull you back and smack you out again....Have to say though its not gender specific...Women can be narrsesstic the same as men.. and men can be victimized by them the same as women...If your in an abusive relationship. .read up on it ..educate yourself.. recognize it. And no matter how bad it hurts get out.. it doesnt get better.. they dont see themselves as wrong in any aspect.. when they do its only been when the other person is showing signs of strength n trying to walk away..they will apologize and they will make promises n when they feel they have control back. They will repeat the same offense they apologized for... we are their supply.. and even when we do get out.. and they find another supply to fill the void ..when that supply figures it out...they will always attempt to go back to the previous ones before trying to start over with someone new.. Even though they are masters of charm and manipulation Its a process for them to have to put on the act and put up ayers to hook someone new in. They will but only when they have exhausted any chance of getting any one of their past relationships to accept them back..There id mo cure. But with the right counseling. It can be controlled but very few w/NPD seek it. Because they do not feel they have a disorder. .By nature I am strong willed. Stubborn and hard headed. So I will not be controlled. That is my saving grsce.. but my curse.. forgiving to a fault. I cant hold on to anger or a grudge against those that have hurt me the most. I dont want to see anyone or anything feel alone or unwanted... so its hell on me to not forgive and not want to comfort when someone reaches out.. especially someone I cared so much for...maybe my curse has a bit of a blessing though.. because as much hell for me it was that I experienced and as much time that I gave up trying to be there for that person n sympathize.. .Im not bitter n I dont think every relationship is bad.. but not everyone has my curse. And falling prey to narresessit can be life devastating... Those who are not strong willed n hard headed.. will never get out... and those who are but cant let go of anger easily...could make them bitter n very likely will never trust anyone again.. its a vicious manipulating cycle. ..
Posted on: Sun, 17 Nov 2013 15:37:46 +0000
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