Sometimes the events in life can be so painful that they seemingly rip a hole right through the center of our soul. Healing from these painful episodes can be our greatest legacy and bestow upon us wisdom and compassion far beyond that which we could have gained any other way. Yet for most of us we would much rather dispense with the extra portions of wisdom and compassion and bypass the painful instructor all together. The disloyalty of an intimate partner is one of those incidents which mortally wound us in ways far beyond that which we could imagine. All aspects of our lives are dismantled. Our sense of security crumbles, our ego is bruised, our emotions are set a fire, and our health deteriorates. The emotions of fear, anger, and sadness seem to rally together in an unprecedented war against our sense of well-being. It is in this state of overwhelming emotional influence we feel impelled to make some of the most impactful life decisions for our future. The affair is often not a stand-alone incident. It usually is the final act in a drama which started years earlier. The complexity leading up to the relationship which now stands in shambles is mystifying. Often times, the offending party feels justified in seeking solace for his/her lonely soul. A little flirt, a little conversation, an innocent touch sets the mind a fire with a new sense of worth. The feelings blind the participant’s rational judgments and a quickly go down a path which tears hearts a part and creates wounds which may take a life time to heal. If we can catch these self-justifications early, we can choose a healthier path. As kind, compassionate human beings, this is not an act which is congruent with who we are. Betraying the trust and inflicting injury upon someone we once proclaimed to love is a character flaw which must be addressed. Healing is possible, and trust can be rebuilt but these both take far more years and effort than if we face the silent forces in us before going down this lonely path. Slow down, mindfully ask yourself, “What is it I am trying to accomplish here?” ~Troy Flourishing Life Society #trust, #infidelity, #healing, #relationships
Posted on: Sun, 01 Sep 2013 13:40:00 +0000
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