Straight Talking : How can you ever find love when you are being judgmental, blaming and defensive. You wont find any one wanting to be with you Or around you for long. Instead, If you really want to be with someone, then let go that habit of yours of priding yourself on being a pit-bull. Stop taking things personally, finger-pointing, finding fault and needing to have the last word all the time. that wont work with any relationship. Cos,these things creates tension and weakens relation and any growing interest he/she may be having toward you. This is the way forward: when an argument is heating up, notice that and quickly back down. You will know the other is loosing it by the rise of their voice , change of tone, less smile, frown face. To disarm this situation, first set your intention for how you want the conversation Or argument to go for both of you to win. Really think about all the different possibilities and outcomes of what you are arguing about. Then, start by creating a peace treaty together that sets up the guidelines of how you will arrive at a solution of what is coursing the argument. Do this by throwing in some humour to defrost the tension first, and then apply a smooth, communication with respectful - Say : dear,i dont even think this argument we are having is necessary. Do you have any ideas of what we shld do ??? This will quickly change the direction of the argument into peace without any hassles, and you shld then continue in that direction to end the argument and arrive at a peaceful solution.
Posted on: Thu, 03 Apr 2014 19:32:15 +0000