TIPS OF SELF EESTEM • Smile at yourself in the mirror every day and at least TRY to smile at others. • Everyone goes through the phases of feeling low or high, i.e. low or high self-esteem. This happens especially if you judge yourself by your successes or failures. If you learn to estimate yourself by the nature of actions (e.g. their benefit to the society or to yourself), then you are likely to develop high self-esteem without any disrespect or bitterness about others. • Dont give up! • Dont pay attention to people who think that theyre better than you. • Not all decisions may turn out to be right ones. Just keep in mind that right or wrong, you are the one who makes the decisions in your life. Because you are responsible for your choices, you have the power to change your situation. Do not let your confidence disappear because you made one wrong choice. • The most important thing of all is that you have to believe in yourself. If you believe you can, then you will be able to. • Dont feel like you are not good enough because you havent been treated the way that you should be. Overcoming that is strength in itself and something to admire. • As your self-confidence builds, you will feel better about yourself, and your self-esteem will grow from the inside out. • Your inner strength will enable you to reach your goals in life. If you fall down, pick yourself up and try again. • Visualize yourself being surrounded by people who are patting you on the back or shaking your hand, or standing and clapping for you. Visualization is a very powerful tool to use. • Listen to a song that suits your mood. There is a song for almost everything. When you jam to a favorite tune that you can relate to, it gives you confidence. • Once you convince your subconscious the way you want to be, you will find that you will start to become far more confident and life will be the way you want it. • Look at yourself in the mirror every day. Try to find something to admire about yourself in your looks, accomplishments and achievements. • Tell yourself you are confident and outgoing even if you dont feel that way. Your feelings and beliefs all come from the thoughts you think so if you believe you are confident and outgoing you will be. Think as though you dont even know what its like to have low self-esteem. • Be assertive. Boosting your self-esteem is all about getting what you need/want. Do things for your own sake. Remember, you must help yourself first before you can help others. • Always smile even if you arent in the mood to. • Dont let magazine ads and other media outlets try to take away your self-confidence for marketing purposes. Dont let people who dont know you tell you how to feel or what to strive for. Choose your own path. • The opposite feeling of self-esteem is anxiety. Feeling anxious is not a good nor a bad feeling. Its just a mechanism of yourself telling you that theres something wrong and you need to act upon it. Anxiety is the fuel to responding to what is wrong and thus developing self esteem. • Start every day with a new smile. Life is far too short to waste. • Make sure your self-talk is positive at all times. Tell yourself how great you are or how good you look today. Make being positive your natural state of being. • When you get anxious about the future, it is better not to think about it. The more you think about it the more anxious youll get. Of course it’s important to think about what lies ahead, too, but if you only look at whats down the road, youll get tangled by the laundry by your feet and fall, won’t you? You see, it’s also important to think about what you can do now. What you can do today, and if you keep washing things one at a time, youll be done before you know it. Sometimes the anxiety will start to well up, but when it does... take a little break. Read a book, watch TV, and spend time with friends. • Just be yourself. Go at your own pace. Youll fit in just fine. • Be careful not to act as though you are better than others. Even if you are, true self confidence leads you down the path of modesty and respect for others. Your self-esteem is something that fills you up and helps light your way through life. Pomp, conceit, inability to compromise and disrespect for the self-esteem of others are merely masks for inner insecurity and weakness. People who try to hide behind these arent fooling anyone. • No one really starts out kind. All we know how to do at first is want. We want food, we want attention...its just natural survival instinct, I guess...but kindness is something that we all have to learn as we go. Its something that grows and develops slowly over time...the same way our bodies do. • Maybe the reason you dont see it is that its stuck to your back. What I mean is, a persons admiral qualities - theyre just like, say, a pickled plum on a rice ball. In other words the persons the rice ball and the plums stuck to their back. So, all over the world you can have rice balls made with all sorts of wonderful ingredients, all different flavors and shapes and colors, but since theyd be stuck in the middle of everyones back, someone could have a plum and not even know it. Theyd look at themselves and think Im so plain, nothing but white rice, even though it isnt true because, turn them around and, sure enough, there it is. Theres the plum. So if someone is jealous of somebody else, well, then, its probably because its easier to see the plum on someone elses back than it is on your own. Yup. I can see it. I can see it very clearly, you dont know it but you have a great big plum on your back. • A good trick to starting to build self-confidence is to pick something about yourself that you do like (EVERYONE has as least one aspect about them that they like) and create a phrase: Im (aspect) and Im awesome! Then pick something that you want to improve: Im going to ________ and life will rock even more because ______! Pick a time to repeat this mantra, like every time you brush your teeth or rub your eyes. Examples: Im a good artist! Im going to be less shy and life will rock even more because more people will see my art! Im clever! I am going to think things out more to solve minor problems around me. Life is in my control! • True kindness isnt something were born with. Its something we have to work at. Not everyone has it. But I think everyone has the potential. Sometimes you just have to look really close before you can tell its there. • Surround yourself with people who care about your feelings! People who dont care about you wont help your confidence. For more of this subscribe to our blog blog.biarusi
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